I know me
I would just drive there and surprise him
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Listen to your stomach. Itās called your intuition.
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Man I had a totally different take on this. Perhaps this guy is working out of state to provide for his family. Maybe sheās not pulling her share of the weight financially or spending money faster than he can make it. I mean letās be real the guy didnāt take an out-of-town job unless money or space was the incentive. Now she wants the bank account information and people are accusing him of cheating because he doesnāt want her to spend all the money. I work with a lot of guys that travel from job to job and hands down this is the number one complaint the men have about their lives.
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Sorry to say, but he may be doing something he shouldnāt. Doesnāt always have to be cheating though.
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Yes I agree go visit.
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Let me say I trusted my hubby completely but on a trip out if state I thought he was acting strange. I drove there and just showed up and was wrong. Thankfully. But take a trip and get it done.suprise visit is the best way if heās not doing anything u get a night with the hubby.if he is then get a jump on securing the house and file for divorce. Only 2 ways it can go
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He might not be cheating he could be lying about a jobā¦
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I would definitely show the hell upā¦ if heās cheating heāll be caught if heās not youāll get a night with your husband 
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Iād start looking for a divorce attorney then take a trip out there. Heās up to no good!!!
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I would surprise him with a visit. Show up around the same time you video chat with him. Your intuition is always right!! Be prepared for what you might see. If he is not cheating have a talk with him and tell him how you feel. Always communicate with each other. And remember, if you donāt have trust, you have nothing. I wish you all the best.
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Your gut doesnāt lie. Trust me. Mines never been wrong.
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Do a surprise pop up on that ass
100% doing you wrong.
Start getting your financial life in order.
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8 yrs and he has accts without your name on them??
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GUT feelings are Spot on
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I would do a surprise visit.
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I would go do a surprise visit. Itās gonna stress you out all day if you donāt. But prepare yourself for what you might see.
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If your gut saying something believe it, sounds odd to me.
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Hes being shady af and doing something sneaky. Trust your gut. Womens intuition is 10 times stronger than a manās. Watch the womenās brain on Netflix. They explain it deeply.
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Iād be acting the same way if you started asking for my bank info while I was out of town. Tf?
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Why do you guys have separate accounts in the first place 
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Shady! Pop up when he leasts expects it. Always go with your gut!!!
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Obviously he wants to see you in person. Pop up sis.
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I think you should slow down and reflect for a moment. He rushed u off phone and was upset about bank info? But u never have asked for bank info beforeā¦so he could be wondering the same thing like are u planning on emptying the bank and leaving him. Rushing off phoneā¦ I mean maybe he was running late for something for work. Who knows. I think u can prepare yourself for the what ifs, but I think u need to slow down and calm down unless some sort of solid evidence arises that he is cheating. No one likes being accused of things they arenāt doing, so if u do keep coming at him and fighting with him he is gonna get mad too and then u two are fighting for no reason at allā¦just make sure u r positive
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If you think heās cheating, he is but itās HIS ACCOUNT, you donāt need his info.
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If your names on the account go get print off of all the activities to the account, I believe always trust your woman intuition
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Cheating or planning to cheat.
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Out of State not good. 
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First off, answer the phone and talk it through. I think youāre jumping to conclusions.
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Hes certainly up to something id say its time for a suprise visit
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Youāve been married for 8 years. If you feel heās being shady then heās more than likely is.
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Well nobody on here is going to know
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Sounds like a surprise visit is in order. Pop ups donāt lie. 
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Iād show up and surprise him. Bring him something like food or a new shirt and then see whatās going on.
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Trust your instincts that gut feeling is there for a reason and weāre usually right
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He sounds suspiciousā¦ heās hiding somethingā¦
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I wouldnāt give you my bank info either.
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Why wouldnāt he give his bank information ? His money is your money after all he is your husband
Ur married u should have that info anyways.
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I donāt think any of us can help you. A bunch of women are saying he in fact cheating. We donāt know you or your husband. Only you and him know. Does he come home at all? Think its time for a sit down if youāre uncomfortable
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I canāt help you, but a tracker on his car from Amazon can. 
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Womanās intuition, you already know
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Tracker wonāt help if he having someone come to him. Or if he goes in another womanās car. I say fly or drive over to surprise him. Heck get a room where he is staying at. I think he cheating
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Find out how he is āfeelingā check on your relationship without accusing him of anything. Maybe suggest counseling and you may find out whatās wrong without the arguing, fighting, and denials
Iād just leave 
cheating or not you obviously aināt happy with me
Well what was the incident that happened for him to rush you off? Why is his account his and not both? My husband knows whatās in the bank and what gets spent bc itās our money so itās our account.
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Yes. And if you never asked for his password before, you have no reason to ask now. I surely wouldnāt give it to you. Itās not yours to have.
He sounds sus sis! Pop up on him.
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Sounds odd but donāt jump to conclusions without more info
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Totally hiding something I hate to say it but itās probably another female
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Of course he is otherwise he wouldnāt get so angry
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Surprise visit needed!!!
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An incident happened today??? But he started doing that recently??? Soā¦did it happen today or has it been happening??? Cause to me it sounds like yāall had a simple spat and your now making it dramaticā¦and to ask for password to a bank account while yāall are fighting?? So you can do what with his money now that yāall fighting???
Trust your gutā¦ when you know you know.
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You already know the answer.
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Before jumping to conclusions try talking to him
Thereās definitely some charges he is scared of you finding out about.
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Talk to him. You can not just assume anything. Your explanation doesnāt tell anyone the truth. What was the incident? Why has he been rushing you off phone? What does he do for work? Maybe heās really busy with work or if he is boss thereās a problem. So honestly I donāt feel anyone can give a adequate answer. To many unknowns
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So you dont have the bank account info? And yall been married 8 years? That right there is a red flag all on itself. When you become married, everything becomes shared.
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I wouldnāt stress. Eventually what you need to know will show itself. Prepare for anything. Be independent. Go, do you. Save money. Donāt let his actions dictate yours. If he isnāt loving you correctly or caring how you are feeling, then care for yourself. A person who loves you will never leave you feeling insecure. Know your worth. Stop waiting for him. Stop fighting with him. Stop chasing him. For one, it wonāt bring him back, so why do it. And why would you bring yourself Å£o that level? KNOWING YOUR WORTH IS WHAT MAKES YOU IRREPLACEABLE. Then you will never get or receive bread crumbs from anyone. No husband and wife should have separate anything. Ever. Then why be married? Just stay single. Live together. Marriage isnt necessary if you keep everything separated. And thatās ok too.
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military prefers the āsneak attackā method because it works. Just sayin.
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My opinions 8 years married you should have already known his bank accounts number and PW. As he should know yours
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Sounds like itās time for a surprise visit 
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Visit him without notice.
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Trust your gut, listen to that inner voice only you know the right choice for you
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Something going on out of town, secure yourself and wake up to whatās going on,
Lol donāt answer the phone. That situation needs further investigation.
Sooo just because he doesnāt really wanna talk lately on FaceTimeā¦heās cheating?
How does that work?
Maybe he just told you everything new couple hrs ago when you called and talked for a whileā¦so heās just bored and wants off the phone instead of sitting there in ackward silence when he could be doing other shit.
Now Iām not saying heās not cheatingā¦I just donāt see how not wanting to FaceTime long equals cheating. Cuz damn, I refuse FaceTime period and rush people off the phone a lotā¦just cuz I aināt got nothing else to say, so talk to you later! Not cuz Iām hiding something. I just aināt about pausing my life to sooth someone elseās insecurities.
Could he be cheatingā¦sure. he could very well be.
Or he could just be bored and doesnāt wanna drag it out.
Then you come all like you are cheating! Let me see your bank account!
Iād be like bitch no! Just on principle. Youāre not gonna micromanage me, cuz youāre insecure lol
After the fight, when we friendly again, sure ask me, Iāll show yaā¦but in the heat of the momentā¦itās a hill Iāll die onš¤·.
But ya. If the only thing is the phone callsā¦girl you need to chill.
My man use to work outta town 98% of the timeā¦I was lucky if I got a 30min phone call at the end of the day and some responses to texts while he was at workā¦and yetā¦I trusted him.š¤·.
Maybe call the bank lol
We all have gut instincts on these things. The fact that your asking for third party opinions means you have trust issues in your relationship. Rushing you from FaceTime and his behavior change is cause for concern, but doesnāt mean heās cheating. The bank account evasiveness is definetely a red flag. You owe it to yourself and your marriage to seek answers. I would however get both of you to a counselor to address all of these concerns. Your assuming alot of things with no real proof and you could be walking away from something that clearly meant something to you at one time. You owe it to yourself to get to the truth before you make any decisions. Praying for you to have peace, answers and closure.
Listen to your gut instincts ā¦ please ā¦
Follow your instinct
LISTEN to your Gut!! It is never wrong!
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If your gut instinct is telling you something is wrong, itās nearly always right.
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Iād strongly suggest having a sit down talk when he comes home. Iād honestly discuss that you both are married. As long as you both are working & putting money in the bank, the bank account should be shared & visually available to both of you at times. Push for a shared account. You are a team.
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If I was married for 8 years Iād already know his banking pwā¦or weād have a joint bank account. I donāt like this yours and mine bullshit. When youāre married itās OURS
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Heās playing around. Time to move on.
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All you people talking shit, shame on you. I hope you never find yourself looking for genuine advice. My advice, do some research first, donāt freak out yet. Play it cool, men get too cocky, thatās their flaw. He will hang himself if he is up to no good. I will say, I have never asked for a password etc, just because of a respect and trust thing. Also if you are willing to fuck shit up, then Iām good and Iām leaving. If you feel you need this info from him, then I think you already have your answer.
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āIf it walks like a Duck and it quacks like a Duckāā¦
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Sounds like he doesnāt want you to see his bank statements as to what he has been purchasing with his debit card.
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Visit him out of town and find out.
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I would go to the bank if your on the account and see how much money you have. Ask for a printout of your bank statement
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Straight out ask him or show up! Maybe the bigger problem is you have been married for 8 years and canāt talk to him!
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U already know the answer to ur own question. Trust ur gut and stop asking complete strangers who donāt know u or ur husband from a home in the wall.
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What was his reason for rushing you off the phone? ā¦ It wouldnāt sit well with me either. You would need to have serious sit down with him and try to find out whatās going on. Has he ever been unfaithful before? Do you think you have a pretty solid relationship with good communication? I always like to give the benefit of the doubt before jumping to any conclusions, but you definitely need to let him know how you feel. His answer or reaction will give you a better sense of direction. Maybe its nothing and completely harmless, or maybe itās not. Only you can dig for that answer. I wish you all the best 
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Now that you knowā¦ when you suspect your probably not wrong, anyways, start getting your shit together for yourself so when you depart from one another. Heāll never suspect your moving on while he still with youā¦lol Donāt get mad, get yourself set up , you know itās coming.
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sorry - possibly so - 
Something is not right! Ur gutt is always right!!! If he had nothing to hide, it wouldnāt be a problem giving ur the passwords, etc. Id think he was cheating too!
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My friend was just in a situation like this. Come to find out her boyfriend & father of her 3 girls had a whole year long relationship with some other woman while working out of town.
yes go there but take your bff your gonna need that shoulder to cry on.
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Been there , take all the advice here and check him out. Lifeās too short to sit around and wonder whatās going on.
And IF heās hiding stuff ā¦ wellā¦ā¦
I wasted 20 years in an abusive cheating relationship ā¦ that I canāt get back !!
I hope you find what you need and everything is good , but if not , move on !!
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If your gut is telling you something is up. Something is DEFINITELY up.
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In my personal experience, when having to do a lot of time apart in your relationship, you both know itās going to come with hardships so you do things to reassure each other, be more transparent, not the other way aroundā¦ demand answers, and donāt let him make you feel crazy for following your gut. Good luck to you.
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That sounds like he is messing around on you and trust your gut instincts and be blunt and honest with him how u feel about it.
Yes, you are overreacting.
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If he didnt have anything to hide, he wouldnt care. Plain and simple. Hes got a side chick out of state and he doesnt t want you too see their dinner recipts!!!
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He may not know his password if he is like me and Face IDās everything but the rushing to get off the phone constantly would bother me too. He should be willing to FaceTime or messenger video or something to put your mind at ease. A good husband wouldnāt want you to worry where there is nothing to worry about. If he is acting defensive about any of it and shows no interest in reassuring you then trust your gut and pull up on him 
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Trust your instincts only you and you alone can judge this situation
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He is so doing something or someone