Can she swim?
Does she have a phone to contact you?
Being at a waterpark running around she will be mostly unsupervised. Talk to the other girls parent… be a good judge of character…then decide.
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Let her go and have a SAFE word, my daughters was Mum I forgot my Red TShirt when they rang from their friends house…would wait 5-10 minutes and call the friends parents and tell them need to collect my child as we have a family emergency…worked and our child got out of a uncomfortable situation for her…just a thought…SAFE WORD, between parents.
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My mom kept me from many things and I still remember missing out on things like this including field trips and such, I resent her horribly for this. Send your baby girl to the party and let her have a good time she will love you for it
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Go meet the parents. Have her check in with you.
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Yes you should send her
Let her go. I’m like you, anxiety about everything and everyone around my kids. Check in with her. But let her have her fun.
We don’t do sleep overs.
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I would Let her go but NO overnight stay. I would go pick her up
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My mother was “scared of the world” too and didn’t let me do a lot of things. I still struggle with invitations to things as my brain now tries to evaluate what will go wrong while I’m there. I will suggest some therapy for yourself so you can address your fears and sort things out.
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Give her a cell phone so she can privately call if something makes her ready to come home!
Id say let her go and tell her to give you a call or text before she goes to be so you know shes there safe and sound!
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Absolutely let her go!!
Yes, I know it totally get it. My anxiety is ridiculous. I track my daughters phone. Only reason I got iPhones is to know her location 24/7. I still have a hard time when she wants to do a sleepover. But we can’t not allow them to do anything. 1 it’s unfair when it’s something that’s not out of line, like this. & 2 - we don’t want them to start sneaking around or sneaking out because we don’t allow them too. I get where your heart is - in the right place but unfortunately we have to let our kids gain more independence and experience these type of things.
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To not let her go would be selfish
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You sound controlling as heck.
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I completely agree with Cat. And also, she’s getting to that age that she’ll want to hang out with her friends without parents around. Give her some leeway, and see how it goes. You’re going to worry, that’s just how parents roll. But let her show you that everything is ok. Maybe have her check in once or twice.
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Will an adult be there? Do you trust that adult?
Pop an ativan and let her go…she has a life to live too. Your issues are not her issues.
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Girl release the Velcro just a smidge 
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I would be really nervous about sending my child to a water park with a bunch of other kids and few adults…
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Let that baby go I can understand but at the same time it’s not about you let that baby have fun
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My mom didn’t let me go to sleepovers, or water parks with other people… and guess what? I turned out fine, I was upset about it back then but now I’m glad. So many of my friends were SA at a young age from having too much freedom, I never was. My mom protected me and I appreciate her for it now as an adult.
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Let he her, you enjoy being the host, let someone else enjoy it as well. In a way you’re being a bit selfish.
You can never be too careful BUT you have to let her live. Send her a phone.
Fear it! Your child is YOUR responsibility, so take it serious. After she is missing or abused it’s too late… I’ve always hated the stranger danger cliche, because it’s normally the people in your circle that are the abusers. I am not against sleepovers but.i think multiple parents should chaperone a group, it isn’t safe any other way.
She’s getting to an age where you’re going to have to allow her out into the world. It’s better to let her go with a group than it is to keep her cooped up all the time. The hardest part of being a parent is learning to let go.
I never let my son sleep over others houses. I never had sleepovers either. Hes in his thirties now, and doing just fine…
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Yes unless u think it’s an unsafe environment like the parents won’t be there or serious issues, need to let your daughter go. Please don’t put your anxieties onto your daughter. The best way to break the pattern is to do those things that scare u but are good for her
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Let the baby go. She’s 13. If anything is wrong she can call you to come home
Maybe see if you can go with to help supervise the other kids because it’s a water park. 
that way you can also keep a eye on your daughter, but remember she is getting to that age of being independent and wanting to do her own thing if you’ve taught her water safety and just safety in general to pay attention to her surroundings then let her go and have fun 
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Let her go!!! She will be fine
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Suck it up mom and cut the cord…
Maybe you could get a room where they’re staying?
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Offer to chaperone the Waterpark and then let her be at the sleepover. I can attest to the anxiety and fear being real but as someone said your issues should not be hers. If you don’t trust the adults that will be in charge at the sleepover figure out if it’s, again you, or really them that’s the concern.
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My daughter just turned 15 and I have slowly been letting go a little. It’s hard but you have to let them live a little and learn to make the right decisions before their old enough to leave home . Plus I felt like I was punishing her just because I was afraid she would make the same mistakes as me and that wasnt fair. I put a app called life360 on my daughters phone. We can see each others locations at all times and I can also see her battery percentage. The app is free and extremely accurate.
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You should let her go. I know its hard, but as a teenager, I was very sheltered and didn’t get to experience things like this and it’s something I regret. If you’re nervous, tell her to keep in contact with you. Call the friends parents too and let her know how you feel.
Definitely let her go. She needs to learn socialization out from under your wing. She needs to be able to make decisions on her own without you around.
Get over yourself for her sake
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Call the parents , check out the environment when you drop her off. Stick to your gut . Mine were not permitted to stay the night anywhere but could attend the party if I felt comfortable with my findings
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does she have a phone? I totally get not wanting her to sleep over due to anxiety but thats your stuff not hers. She will stop getting invited to things if its always a NO. She deserves some independence. If she doesnt have a phone and you dont want to add one get a cheapy prepaid that way u can check on her and if she feels some type of way she can reach you. Dont keep her from being a kid because u feel some type of way. A lot of parents are anxious i myself am but we have to find ways to make sure our shit doesn’t become our kids shit.
For me it would come down to the parents and the situation. How many kids are going. Have you spoken to the parent do you feel like they are responsible. Also your daughter knows the rules. Make sure she checks in with you in between the water park and the hotel room. Make sure she’s never walking anywhere alone to the bathroom or the hotel room anything like that she always has to be with someone. Personally my daughter is about to be 12 and I would send her as long as I felt the parents were on the same page as me as far as supervision. I’m super conservative and very careful. But like you said it would be really upsetting if she had to miss this and she’ll probably resent you. Unless she’s giving you a reason not to trust her then go over the rules with her carefully tell her this is a test run for being able to do bigger and better things. Talk to the parents make sure that they’re going to supervise and be careful that they’re not totally hands off.
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I would make sure I meet parents, then let her go
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My rule is if I even have the slightest thought that my child may not be safe they aren’t going …… with that being said my kids don’t spend the night hardly at anyone’s house . I would let my child go to the birthday party and pick her up after dinner or when it gets closer to bed time that way she is still able to have a good time 
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You need to get your own life
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If the friends parents trust then why can’t you trust the other parents, let her go and have fun. You can’t have it all just one way so unless their is something wrong with the other parents that give you good reason not to trust then let her go.
You need to let her go and explore or she will never be self-sufficient or even worse she may regret and even despise you, try not to be such a helicopter mother, they have to get out there sometime. That is as long as there is some sort of adult supervision? The whole thing about learning is actually doing and finding out for yourself or herself who she is in this life.
Talk with the parents then let her go if it seems safe and the parents are responsible…
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I never thought twice about letting my kids spend the night at friends, especially a birthday party. I knew my kids and trusted them. They wouldn’t stay if they didn’t feel comfortable. They need that so bad. Sleep overs left so many lasting memories for me. I wanted that for my kids too.
You have to trust her at some point to go to others homes
I understand how you feel I get it but please let your daughter go out and have fun, it would be a bummer if she missed it, she’s so young she needs to go out and socialise with other people , my oldest is 10, and I worry so much when shes out with friends, let alone her dad’s but I always check in on her, my mum kept me from soo much and I missed out on parties/feild trips etc, don’t let your anxiety control you. You can always text her (assuming she has a phone) to check on how she’s doing,
It’s ok to have anxiety and feel the way you do! But I do think it’s a great opportunity for her to be out of her own home for once - id let her go 
Your anxiety is your issue, if your daughter hasnt given you any reason to think anything bad will happen then you should let her go. She is 13, let her be 13.
I get it,it’s hard to trust adults you don’t know well with all the crap that goes on in the world.
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Meet the parents that will be there and set rules with your daughter…let her spread her wings! She needs to experience slumber parties silly stuff and the space away will do her some good! Make sure the parents have ypur.contact info…(side note you could volunteer to help chaperone!)
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Can she swim ? Does she know any first aid protocol ? Will there be boys or brothers at the sleepover ?
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Maybe allow her to go to the waterpark but say no when it comes to the sleepover if it bothers you that much it’s better to be safe than sorry especially when it comes to your kids so if you have a feeling telling you no then listen 
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No overnights… period
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I would have to “feel out” her friends parents n see what they’re like before I’d let her go w anyone! It’s a scary world we live in, unfortunately 
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Anxiety is your problem not hers and she shouldn’t have to miss out because said parent has panic attacks don’t let her miss out on childhood events because you can’t keep her in a little box her whole life she is Always your little girl and that will never change but I think you need to go and get help for your anxiety or it will eventually affect her
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Just go with her. 
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That is your decision to make.
Talk with her parents. I would go by if he’s mature for her age for sleeping out.
I’m exactly the same
Hopefully you know the parents of the girl whose party it is. Might depend on the number of girls invited to the party. If there are a small group of girls going and you know the parents and can feel confident that there will be sufficient supervision you should let your daughter go.
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She’s only 13… no overnights. Definitely yes to the water park. But why is it an overnight? There’s a definite difference between sheltering and protecting your children from the potential inappropriate things that can happen 
if you don’t know the parents well or you know them well and it makes you uncomfortable, always best to go with your gut!
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If you know the parents, let her go. She shouldn’t have to miss out on stuff bc of your anxiety. I feel the same way when it comes to my kids, but I know I need to let go a bit sometimes
I’m this mom! Let me know what you decide!
If you don’t give freedom, your kid will never learn to grow on her own
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I would let her go if I could go with her. My kids will never go to a waterpark or pool without me present to keep an eye on them - and I don’t care what anyone else thinks of it.
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Depends on the size if the group and how well you know the friend and her parents. I wouldn’t let her go unless you know them like freaking family, and its a really small group.
Where they experience and learn and grow. Need to trust. If ya hold on to tight that may become an issue. Let her learn a little at a time. See how things go.
It’s so sad the way things have changed these days, I wholeheartedly understand your anxiety.
Lmao that’s gunna be me Theresa Gnatzig Gleesing 
I could not go anywhere growing up. I was the one left out always. I extremely rebelled because of it. I let my kids go because I know how horrible it feels. I have anxiety and am over protective but I do allow them to be a kid. I say talk to the parents and let them go. Call, text, and FaceTime them when gone.
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Talk to the parents lady, find out all the info!!
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Chaperones? If so volunteer.
It’s hard to protect them from life. Maybe go over and check out their place. Get to know them and take their picture. It’s hard.
I would let her go and hang out and then pick her up from the friends house late at night.
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Absolutely let her go. Cut the apron strings. You have to ket her grow up. Make sure the parents are responsible people and they will keep an eye on the children.
I feel the same way and mine are still little:pensive:
Nope. Unfortunately if you’ve ever been raped or molested u understand how quickly it happens and how it takes a lifetime to overcome it. I’d pass on the sleepover and take her to the Waterpark the next day but you have to do what ur gut is telling you to do.
Meet the parents and I say pick her up later
You have to trust them, I had let my kid go places but she keep in touch with me while she was gone, that helped my anxiety also I put life360 on her phone, you have to let them live a little or they will go wild when they can
You need to give a little, to learn to trust her and receive hers in return. Like me you may not be able to sleep and text during the night with " are you having a good time?" But you need to do this.
Personally I’d never let my kids stay the night anywhere. Yea they can go out, but at the end of the day they need to come home. She’s only 13.