Ya sorry, you married a boy not a man. Sorry bout your bad luck but you need to move on or put the smackdown on his ass. He might actually be gay as I re read this.
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Kick him to the curb . Sounds like dead weight . Lighten the load . Good luck . God bless
Ur already doing it by herselfā¦ u dont need him. Just think what ur missing out on by getting a REAL MAN!
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So what Iām hearing is that youāve been the Adult and want to know how to parent a grown man. Not your job. Move on, you sound like you can do alright without him.
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Throw the whole man awayā¦ or should I say āboy.ā
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He probably is still dating his ex and using you financially . Girl time to say bye
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Maybe you need to give him back to his mommyā¦
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Why are you even posting on Facebook. Instead of posting you should be packing his shit, let his ex keep him.
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Honestly? If he wonāt work, kick him out the door.
You the foolo for taking caree of a man that is not your sonā¦No Way
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GET. THE. FUCK. OUT. if you canā¦ I donāt mean to be overstepping my bounds, but this will not change! and from my experience, youāre better off being a single mama with daycareā¦ Itās not worth it!
My sister said, after dumping her boyfriend of several years after he exhibited behavior like this, thatās the best 260 lbs Iāve ever lost! She only had herself to think of. You have babies to take care of also. Itās not healthy for them to see this torment.
This is a joke, right?
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There is only one solution for this. Time to go babe.
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Thatās not a husband. Thatās another baby you have to provide forā¦
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You. Are. Being. Used.
Leave his lazy ass.
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Sounds like time to get a new husband.
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Girlllll , youāre letting him bring his friends over & use your gas to leave the house even though heās not working? & wont have sex bc of his ex even after 7 years? Advice? Leave cus you out here lookin like boo boo tha fool .
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Get a new husband. Yours is broken.
Pack his shit and leave it on the door and change the locks.Time for him to find another home and source of income. He not interested in you just what you provide.
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Kick him out, sounds like an extra child your taking care of and not a spouse.
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Unpopular opinion here: Is he home with the kids so they arenāt at daycare? Is he taking them to and from school? Or taking care of any responsibility at home? If so, why is this acceptable for a stay at home mom and not a stay at home dad. I would hate everyone telling my husband to leave me because he supports our family solely.
Now obviously if he is just mooching and not being responsible in any way, shape, or form, that is different.
Just a different perspective š
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Leave or better kick him to the curb.
You donāt need another kid, you need a man mama! Tell him itās a full time job to help with the house or back to mommy and daddies house.
Draw a line in the sand. He doesnāt get a job, then he doesnāt get anything else attached with the word job! That should be enough of an incentive for him!
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Dump his lazy ass back at his exās!!!
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My ex husband was the same. It drained me. I chose to go. I wish you the best girl.
Please donāt get offended but dump his ASS he has a mother his broke ass can go free load elsewhere
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Thatās not a husband, he is a roommate not paying his half.
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If anything is because of his ex, itās an invalid excuse, especially after that long.
If you have uber eats, grubhub, doordash, postmates, etc. In your area, tell him to sign up to be a delivery driver, they allow him to make his own hours and work as much or as little as he wants without a set schedule, so he had no excuse. Otherwise, start calling him a stay at home dad and start expecting him to do all of the things that a stay at home parent does, and make it blatantly clear that this is what you expect.
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My EX husband did the same. Back pain. So I made him watch our son took him out of day care. He changed diapers, cleaned house and had dinner when I came home. Found out he was playing on tinder. I served him promptly
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Bounce his lazy ass out the door
Wtf? Even if it was one year, an ex shouldnt be in your relationship
Make him leave. Thatās bullshit.
Ditch him basically a free loader u can do it by yuhr self
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āMy husband refuses to get a job: Advice?ā
Find a new husband.
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Get rid of him you and the kids will be better off
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Darling. This is why God invented divorce! Come on! This man is satisfying NO part of your life. Instead he is sucking the life right out of you by having you work and basically not see your kids. Come on. You donāt need to be a genius to figure it out. And he is talking to you about an ex? Are you out of your mind?
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A leech whoās openly using you and abusing you because you allow it. Leave him.
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Oh no hun. A husband needs to provide unless he has a legit disability. I have MS and still take my butt to work. No excuses for a man not to work and provide for his family.
Get rid of him him he is a LOSER !
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My ex got out of the military and then sat on his ass for 6 months. I ānagged himā to get a job while I busted my ass at work everyday and then was still doing 90% of home duties. That killed any desire for intimacy that I wanted. Now Iām a single mother of two and work and do everything but my life is so much easier because I lost the 3rd child and the other two at happy with a $2 allowance. Moral of the story: ditch the zero.
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Leave. If he still had issues with his ex him never should have gotten married.
You donāt have a marriage. Itās over.
No desire to work and let you do it
No no no
Pimping much? He better have the dinner and house clean most days. You have motherhood one time and it aināt for his ass especially if heās able. Age and sperm donāt make a man or a father. Donor life.
Sounds like you have an over grown child still looking for a woman to take care of him like his mom did as a child. I personally couldnāt deal with that, but thatās just meā:woman_shrugging:t2:
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Is he taking care of the children? Is he cooking? Is he cleaning? Is he doing any of the things a man would expect a stay at home mother to do? If so, have a talk with him if heās complaining he doesnāt see you. If heās lounging around doing absolutely nothing, then it Sounds like you need a good divorce attorney. Intimacy 1-2 times per month? No, heās getting it somewhere else.
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You donāt need him seems like you can do this on your own .
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Baby know your worth and kick him to the curb you already got children to provide for you donāt need to provide for himšŖ
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Kick him out and file for child support and spousal support. The court will make him get a job or go to jail.
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Your guilibul, believe anything, he got you wipped, your desperate and he knows it, your willing to do anything to keep him, hey donāt get upset of him taken advantage, now divorce him you wonāt tho, I mean 7yrs of desperation, š¤·š¤·š¤·š¤· your the issue another women would of pissed him off a very long time ago, you tell your self I can change him, 
š¤¦š¤¦ nahh stop blaming the EX she aināt the reason your desperate to be HIS motherā¦
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If you havent alreadyā¦Have an honest conversation with him about it all. It sounds like you are trying to fix the relationship instead of just end it, so thats my best advice. Be sure to mention that you cant go on like this if he isnt willing to be a part of supporting the family. Maybe therapy or divorce if he isnt receptive to that.
I hope he is at least doing housework and watching the kids if hes staying homeā¦if not something definitely needs to change.
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Girl, he is your baggage. Since you can provide for you and your kids, kick his ASS OUT.
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So why are you still married? Sounds like nothing but another mouth to feed.
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So my hubby and I literally just had this conversation, Iām basically a SAHM right now, and iv debated on going back to work to help with finances. After having the conversation with my hubby we decided that I would stay home as for us itās more financially reasonable with the price of daycare
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Divorce put his butt on the road.
So heās not contributing anything but stress to your life, and is probably cheating on you
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Because of his ex??? I dont get it.
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Move on sorry, or talk to him one last time, or he should go to dr,
Intimate times are less because of his ex?! What in the actual fuck? Refuses to get a job, complains because āhe doesnāt have timeā (because he refuses to contribute), leaves when he does have time and on top of all that bullshit he doesnāt sleep with you because of his ex. Hell no. Heās using you and you need out of that bs. Go find yourself a real man
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Because of his ex? What does that even have to do with it? You know you can make it without him. Youāre doing it now. So make it even easier on yourself by having one less mouth to feed and toss him out the door.
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Your his bank. Your his momma. Kick him to the curve. You got real children that need you
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I kick him out Iām sorry but if you live with someone even if you arenāt in a relationship should help each other. I would just kick his ass out and thought a child support go tell him to get a job or go to jail. There is no reason for him not to work it hurts him cry me a river it does not hurt I was in a major car accident f***** up my knee and my ankle and my whole entire neck back and jaw. Iām not supposed to lift more than 10 lb I do it anyway Iām not supposed to stand on my knee and ankle because there is no muscle behind my knee or cartilage to protect the bones or even tissue so Iām not supposed to stand for more than an hour at a time but I do it anyway. I work at hot topic I work with kids I do amateur modeling with a few photographers and I work with animals that are special needs. They want to do surgery on my back and neck to fix it because itās that bad but I still get up every day and do all this and Iām even a caregiver for my mother because sheās sick with cancer and seizures and neuropathy and a bunch of other s***. There is now it hurts me to work that donāt work for me I get up and do it he can get up and do it other people have worse problems to where they arenāt supposed to be working but just like me they get up and do it. heās taking advantage of you so he can party and have fun with his friends instead of doing what he really needs to do itās your money you pay the bills at your place and thatās all he wants is someone to take care of him. I tell him either get a job or Iām filing for divorce
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Girl heās broken go ahead and throw him out!
Honestly itās hard enough to be a parent but to be a parent on top of all thatā¦ oooo eeeee better toss that bad egg out
Thatās not a husband honey tell him boy bye
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Sounds like heās already moved on from this relationshipā¦you should too.
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You only get one life. You are already showing your kids how hardworking you are so now show them how to be happy and stop settling. Get out and love yourself and your life! You can do this!
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Throw him to the curb
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I stopped reading at any advice, the advice is leave him until he can get a job
Is he willing to be a stay at home dad and run the house and raise the kids full time? Because that would be the talk I would be having. if you are working and trying to do it all then thatās a no go.
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You is a sugar momma, leave him.
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Dump that narcissistic man. It will be hard, you may need therapy but it will be worth having him out of your life
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You need to show your children how a woman should be treated by their husbandā¦as their mother you owe them that
Yup kick him to the curb.
Sounds like heās just plain lazy and is content with living off your labor and is using some bullshit excuse for being a bum. Possibly on the verge of, if not already cheating, and needs a good swift kick in the ass. Also, it sounds like youāre enabling his piss poor behavior. Start taking his things away and treat him like the spoiled child he is.
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Sorry sweetie lost cause stop wasting your time make sure you sign up for child support
Throw the whole husband away
My husband says āyou only can grow a plant you waterā ā¦ what are you trying to grow?! Canāt get work is acceptable but not trying to get work isnāt acceptable! Youāre a team, your bus wife, youāre not his mother!
Liar liar pants on fire is what you should tell a person that states that they canāt contribute becauseā¦
Time for a divorce lol
He would find his ass on the curb if he was was my husband
Girl, if you already doing it all by yourself, why not BE by yourself? Cut him loose, and have one less mouth to feed.
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Unbelievable. He would be at the curb already.
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Kick him out, save the living expenses of an adult, get benefits for being a single parent, spend quality time with your children!
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Your children are more resilient than you could ever imagine, I think your husband is a lazy bastard and needs to stop making excuses, a problem shared is a problem halved so I suggest he gets off his arse and go get a job so you to can have some time to spend with your family as you deserve, Iām pretty sure your children wouldnāt mind if mummy and daddy went to work so they can have there treats.
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Two choices: get a new husband OR work two jobs yourself
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Your being walked over.
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What a fucking idiot. He wonāt work but also complains about you spending time with him? Kick him out.
People need to start taking this shit seriously. Your wife or husband refuses to work, theyāre not responsible adults. They need to contribute or move out.
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Between now and dead, what do you want to be doing with your life?
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Youāre already supporting the family; you donāt need him. One less mouth to feed, cloth & entertain. 
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From someone whoās been cheated onā¦hes getting it somewhere else. Start looking at credit card bills, phone recordsā¦or come home early.
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Take yourself out of the equationā¦ put a friend or relative in your placeā¦ now what would you be telling them? You seriously need to have a good talk with himā¦ if heās not prepared to find work, and start acting like a husband, then walk away. Lifeās too precious to waste xx
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I walked off from my first husband over this I was working 3 jobs and going to collegeā¦best decision I ever made
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Go ahead and leave his ass right now! He deserves just himself, and his friends and maybe his ex.
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Please do this ^^^** STAT
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Sex 1 or 2 a month because of his ex? Huh?
The whole post is likeā¦ What?
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Iād be done. Any man that refuses to get a job is not worth the effort. If you have to do it all by yourself anyway, why do you need him?
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Give him back no work no eat motherās place at home
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lol leave him with the kids and take a breather f that
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