Would you be upset if your SO was following those provocative pages online of women? I’ve told him how I’ve felt about it and of course he played stupid “idk how it got there” I’ve noticed all these women have one thing in common they have blonde hair. He’s cheated on me with a girl that has blonde hair. I just feel like I’m not what he’s attracted to or wants. Never have been but I’m just now realizing two kids later…These women are very far from looking like me. He’s Hispanic and I’m white. I just feel like if roles were reversed and I for example followed a page of all dudes he would be mad too.
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Normally I wouldn’t but in your case this is an issue. He’s cheated before therefore it’s his responsibility to make sure his partner feels secure & loved. That can take a while too but this is obviously something he’s not willing to do.
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Every relationship is different and every woman feels differently about this topic. I don’t think it’s wrong of you to feel the way you do, your feelings are completely valid.
But my biggest concern here is that if he isn’t willing to listen to your concerns re: who he follows on social media, that’s a complete lack of respect, and with his history of cheating, I’d be kicking him out. You deserve someone who wouldn’t think twice about respecting your boundaries when it comes to stuff like this. A man who truly loves and respects you doesn’t find the need to go looking elsewhere.
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Honestly I would be more concerned about the cheating. He would have stopped being my boyfriend at that point. The pictures aren’t the problem, the lack of trust is.
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I would be it’s not acceptable.
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Also if u have told him how u feel he’s should respect ur feelings, he’s made u feel insecure due to his actions he should be doing everything possible to show u he’s only wanting u x
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Hes cheated before that’s my biggest thing
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Yes I’d be upset especially considering the circumstances. If it were family or a different type of page then no big deal
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If you’ve told him you’re not okay with it, that is a boundary he has crossed, and not okay.
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I’d try couples counseling to help you both see if this marriage can be saved or if trust is too broken.
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If he’s already cheated and isn’t considering your feelings you should dump him. Don’t settle
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The pages are not the problem , it’s YOU , your insecurities and your lack of trust in him.
Why a woman start with a man after he cheated just to be paranoid about everything is beyond me
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Nah he’s a big boy n can look if he wants.
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You should have dumped his ass when he cheated. You’re never going to be happy with him and probably resent him forever. He’s already doing things that shows he doesn’t respect you.
He cheated already, so he doesn’t care about you or the relationship. You should have left once he cheated. So now he won’t stop
I wouldn’t be upset. There’s always a reason mine will follow another woman’s page. Sometimes it’s the outfits for ideas when he shops for me, some it’s they are too heavy like me. Others are just for the visual appeal but if they are hot enough for him to follow he shows me and I end up following them as well. I don’t care 
he glances at women when we are out and about, he’s a man it’s in his nature, if they warrant more than a quick glance he taps me to have me look also. Every relationship is different and everyone has their relationship lines. Looking is one thing but if he were to try talking to them I’d be upset and wonder why. Every time he has though he’s told me and shown me messages and it’s usually “hey where do you shop? My girl has a similar body type” type message.
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Die your hair blond, and leave him…
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If he cheated on you why even waste your time staying with him?
Cheaters continue usually. If he really cared he wouldn’t have cheated to begin with.
I couldn’t tell you who my husband follows on social media and I don’t care who he follows.
If I ever found out he cheated, that would be a wrap. I don’t care how many years or how many kids are involved.
Everybody looks. If you say you don’t, even once in a while, you’re a liar. What would upset me here, is his lack of respect and compassion for you. He has already broken your trust, which you have obviously forgiven him for since you’re still there. He has taken that forgiveness and basically responded with a big old F U. He he was actually sorry for his infidelity and if he actually cared for you or your feelings, he would be working towards regaining your trust, not giving you more reasons to distrust him.
It sounds like you deserve better!
First of all, if he cheated and u stayed then the problem is with YOU. Secondly, all men look at some form of porn. Instead of trying to change the cheater, change yourself for yourself. Find your self esteem.
100 % If he’s cheated and likes girls he doesn’t know then he’s looking again! I’m sorry but men following girls they don’t know means he’s attracted to them and Enjoys looking at other woman, I’d be mega pissed if my husband started following random girls, just sake as I would never just follow random guys on social media
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Normally, I tell you to relax. However, hes cheated and it seems to be an issue of him not respecting how you feel or taking into consideration the damage he’s caused. I’d speak to him, maybe suggest counseling- if he isn’t open minded. Run girl. Don’t settle. Life is too short to settle
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To play devils advocate… there are pages on my social media and people on Facebook who I’m “friends “ with that I don’t remember ever seeing. Not saying that’s the case , but it happens. I’ve had to delete the same few people multiple times. You’re allowed to have the boundary of not wanting him to do it, but you have to be prepared to do something if he doesn’t unfollow them.