Tips on helping a one year old fall asleep and stay asleep?

Hi my baby girl just turned 1 month and im having a hard time putting her to sleep. Everytime i put her down on her crib she'll start to cry or fuss then she'll wake up and will stay awake, she has no trouble falling asleep on my arms while being held. I don't have time to do my chores anymore.
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It’s super hard at that seriously attached stage. Maybe a baby carrier will help??

Likely your baby is just used to being in someone’s arms and as soon as she’s put down she isn’t having it. When I took my child home from the hospital, they were the same way. Tool them back to the hospital that same night and they told me the baby was just used to being held all the time. Try to let her cry for a few minutes and as well when checking on her look at her and put your hand on her tummy reassure her you’re still there sooth her a bit while she is laying down rather then picking her up right away. Good luck mama you got this.

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I used to put a little bit of that baby cereal in with the formula and it would keep my kids full and asleep all night. I did it it with all 5 my kids and just make the nipple hole a little bigger

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I year or 1 month old?

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I would use a little cereal and a heating pad on low under the sheet. Remove heating pad before laying baby down.

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1 year old or 1 month old?

I don’t recommend adding anything to the bottle unless advise by a dr. I had to with my oldest due to him having stomach surgery at 4 weeks old

Try a warm bath and rub down with lavender lotion. Maybe some soft lullabies in the back ground.

This has worked on all 3 of mine 5 ,2 and 10 months.
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Use a lil cereal and a Luke warm lavender bath used to work wonders for mine when he was little

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This book was a lifesaver

She gotten used to falling asleep that way. Take her walking in the stroller…

Read a book about sleep training. A timer is a must.

Take a shirt you wore and wrap the baby in it. They want to smell Mama.

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Give her something that smells like you, unwashed shirt or something you wear but don’t care if it gets dirty or messed up.

Please Do not give your baby cereal at 1 month old, not even in a bottle, it’s a choking hazard and has no nutritional value. Try swaddling or a sound machine, a nightly routine such as bath, bottle/breast then bed might also help. Good luck :blush:

Melatonin? I had to give it to my daughter for her sleeping issues since she was 1 and still do. They have a low dose one. I started with 3mg and she is now 7 and takes 10mg

Also, this was approved by her Dr.

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Put down still barely awake and leave your hand open on her chest and let her suck on a pacifier or a pinky if she wont take one, do this till she falls asleep.

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Swaddle it was a life saver

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wear her blanket around your neck so it gets your scent on it. swaddle her (hands in) and put her down when she falls asleep. Also a baby swing is wonderful. My kids loved it and slept every time id put them in it. If this is your first baby two really good books are what to expect the first year and how to raise a thinking child ( that one is also good for anyone experiencing anxiety even if they dont have kids. ) the first few months are really tiring… but let me tell you from experience. If i could go back in time. i would have let the chores fall behind and used that time for bonding and love time. Shes new and shes yours … those chores arent going to change but she will … enjoy her.

Swaddle her… Maybe a shirt that has your scent wrap it around a pillow…

I learned from the beginning never let them get used to falling asleep on YOU… they need to fall asleep & learn to self soothe in their own crib. My aunt’s kids both learned to fall asleep in her arms, they finally slept in their own beds thru the night around age 6 or 7… Mine was sleeping thru the night by 6 wks. A schedule & sticking to it is what I did.

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I got a glove and filled it with rice and sewed it shut for my grandson. Pop it in the microwave for a few seconds so it has a little warmth, and then after you lay baby down, lay that next to them so they think it’s you :heart:

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Try some white noise , put the baby down awake and let bubba dose off by self

A one month old is kind of young to sleep train. Get one of those weighted sleep sacks for babies. They’re expensive but so worth it!! It gives them the comfort of being held or hugged when laying down!

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Set up a routine, bath time at night with lavender, and when you lotion up massage her, make it comfortable. Some lullabies may help keep her asleep too.

Shut the door n leave her to cry herself to sleep

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1 month??? Aye, aye, aye…welcome to motherhood. It takes them a little while to get on a sleep schedule. You’re going to have to sleep and do your chores while the baby sleeps, and naps.

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Wait a few minutes until her body relaxes after she’s fallen asleep and slowly lay her down. If you can, don’t lay her down straight, but keep her at an angle while laying her down. If she has a blanket or swaddle, have her in it before laying her down that way she still has some of your body heat with her after you place her down. Good luck. She may also be going through a growth spurt, and may just be more comfortable with you now. I know it’s tough, but cherish these moments. There’s always time to clean later but you are babies only comfort and she needs you. Remember that you Cannot spoil a baby because you are all they know and all they need. You’ve got this momma, it will get easier in time.

1 month old or 1 year??

Omg some of this advice :scream:

It is the BIOLOGOICAL NORM for your baby to want to be near you, they are incredibly venerable and depend on you exclusively for survival so yes you should absolutely hold your baby! They will want to be held whilst they nap and that’s ok. I know you want to get some stuff done and a sling would really help fee up your hands.

At this point you are establishing your babies comfort and feeling of safety in the world. The more you hold your baby the more secure they will feel as they grow up.

It is PROVEN that sleep training can result in huge anxiety, attachment issues and even adults who are more likely to accept abusive relationship. And even most sleep training methods aren’t recommended until 4 or 5 months.

Please look up the fourth trimester and don’t ever feel bad for holding your baby!

I really wouldn’t be worrying about housework chores when your daughter is one month old. Took a good 6 months to have any kind of routine with one of my children. Housework comes last. As long as your getting your sleep and so is baby, whatever way you find easiest, housework comes later.

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Swaddle swaddle swaddle.

And 20 min cry rule. You can walk away from a baby that you have tried everything else with for 20mins. If baby isn’t calm in 20. Yes you need to go sooth the baby.

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Some may not like it but it worked on all 3 of my girls!! Lay her down , when she starts crying, let her! After about 5 minutes, go in ( do not pick her up) cover her up, tell her you love her , kiss her, and she is safe. Keep in mind , you know she has a full belly, clean diaper , and not hurt, this won’t hurt her! She will probably cry , wait 10 minutes and repeat ! Continue this and she will stop! It’s hard but don’t cave !

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You don’t need to nurse her to sleep. She won’t break if she cries, all three of mine had music in their rooms from day one. You’re just making it harder on yourself picking her up every time she cries, put a little bit of rice meal in her bottle and spray some of your perfume on her pillow.

I’m 99% sure she meant one YEAR old not one month old. Lol

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She is saying her 1 year old daughter turned one a month ago not that’s she is one month old x

If she has no trouble falling asleep In your arms. Then just hold her to sleep and then lay her down. Come on mama give her your love. Housework is not more important

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I would hold her till she fell asleep try ocean wave cds A shirt that smells like you in her crib on maybe a teddy bear Again nothing like mama holding you

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I would get a rocking crib, and maybe play lullaby songs on the radios in a quiet volume. worked for my niece, Remember to rock the crib though for a while so they can see you and think they are with you

Put her in bed shut off the light and close the door and let hwr cry herself to sleep

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When babies are in your belly all your movement puts them to sleep that’s why you notice as soon as you layed down your baby bump would move she needs movement like a swing or bounce with vibration for her to sleep

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I hope this help you as it has helped so many of us :heart::revolving_hearts:

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There are soft baby carriers that might allow her to remain asleep on you while you do some chores

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Put a shirt you have had on in bed before you lay her down. Did this with one of mine worked like a charm

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Is your baby four weeks old ?
When my son was that young there was no putting him down . Chores did not get done .

Of course she falls asleep in your arms. Where do you think she’s been for the (10) month’s now. She will get used to sleeping in her own bed. You just have to let her do it. Lay her down. And shut the light off. Bcuz it was dark in there too.

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Sounds spoiled. Baby has you right where she/he wants you. My kids did not sleep good as they had ear infections often. They had to be swung in a baby swing upright as when they laid down their ears hurt. Music for the baby to sleep to would be something you can try

Sleep train my doctor told me to do it with my second it and i have done it with my third put them in their bed at the same time every night turn off the lights close the door and dont return till morning.

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Get a rocking bassinet, make sure you have black out curtains, a nice sound machine and a swaddle or look on YouTube how to swaddle- your baby wants to feel like she is in the womb and the closest thing to the womb is in your arms, so do those things and it worked like a charm, also make sure the AC is on at least 70. I work as a newborn care specialist, works everytime. Good luck!

Maybe a sound machine? I tried everything with my son and that’s the only way he would go to sleep.I got the Sound Spa Relaxation Machine

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Say so long to chores. Sometimes you just have to hold them. I know is frustrating, but thats what you have to do.

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I’m personally against letting them cry and leaving but I did get in cot with her and she settled much quicker than in arms now. My partner can’t get in so he just sits next to with hand in. We done this method works
For us to get her to sleep quicker but also not on us so is a step toward self soothing.
If all their need are met (fed, clean etc) then there maybe a bit of grizzle for attention and comfort but something in between may help. Mine would scream blue murder if completely left and wouldn’t help anyone.
It’s hard finding a balance and u have to find what is comfortable for u. Others may have different ideas and what works for them. There no wrong or right it’s each to their own. Good luck xx

We have a 8 month old grand boy that we’ve been keeping around 3 days a week since he was a month old. As he has gotten bigger, he lays down in his bed after I get him to sleep easier, but there are time I still have to hold him to let him get his nap out. When he was smaller, I spent alot of time holding him while sleeping. It gets better, even when you think its taking forever. Just be patient. The chores will still be there. That baby wont be that little of a baby very long. Enjoy it.

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I hope its a joke !!!:tired_face::-1:t3::woman_facepalming::thinking:

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Just remember they are only little once. Chores will always be there. Lay her on her side and prop a stuffed animal behind her

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Lavender Sleepytime Soap works wonders

Welcome to parenthood :joy::joy:

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Invest in baby swing. You’ll b happy u did.

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My.babies were big eaters so if they were still hungry,they wouldn’t go to bed.

Baby still new. Wrap baby in blanket after you lay baby down rub and or Pat baby’s back for a few mins. Turn light out and leave room

Is she swaddled when you put her down?? She is only 1 month and is used to living in a small confined place. She needs to feel secure.

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My now 5 month old was… Still slightly is this way…I dealt with HORRID mood swings and separation from boyfriend anxiety while pregnant and while I am embarrassed as hell to admit cried myself to sleep a LOT if he wasn’t in bed when I went to sleep :woman_facepalming:t3::roll_eyes:. I do believe mine experiences that strongly… But I think it’s possibly a lot of that, a bit of colicky, and a sensitive tummy, my gma had her for a while and put her on a consistent schedule of gripe water… Baby is a LOT happier, sleeps through the night and can be content not being held at all times. She’s weaning off the gripe water now, still has her “witching hours” but… She’ll hang out long enough to get things accomplished here and there throughout the day. Might be worth a try

Turn her around, put her feet where you would normally put her head. Idk why but this always worked for my son. Best of luck to ya momma

Wait… The title says 1 year… But the post says 1 month…

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Enjoy that young stage as much as you can! Get some of those swaddle blankets or use a blanket & wrap her up like they do in the hospital.A swing works wonders

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Forget about the chores for now do them when you can during the day. I have a 14 month old and have been able to get all my stuff done and house cleaned his whole life. You just have to figure out a routine and how to do it. My son co sleeps with me and I still manage to get everything done. During the day you teach her or him independent play starting early and you involve them in whatever task your doing whether it be setting them in a playpen in the room your cleaning and talking to them the whole time or giving them a snack in there high chair you can get a lot done in 15 minutes I find. You just have to enjoy them when there babies and toddlers they grow so fast. I just love my sons snuggles and I know he’s growing so fast and won’t want to snuggle mommy anymore.

Alot of babies are like that when they are small, have you tried swaddling her tight (not to tight obviously) my son would only sleep in his bed if he was swaddled, it helps their startle reflex not wake them up.

Fill up an old glove with rice, tie the end with a hair tie and rest it on her so she can think you’re still holding her. I did this for my grandson when he was a baby. It worked wonders.

Did you try a baby swing?

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Say goodbye to your chores and enjoy creating a bond with your newborn. At 1 month, you both need this time. Holding here or him for as long g as they need, will have long lasting positive psychological results. This is part of motherhood. Your child will most likely not want to sleep alone for at least a year. And that’s ok…she’s only a month old. Your coddling is necessary now.

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If she’s only 1 month babies take a little while to be able to settle themselves anyway… so try and get a bit of the chores done if bubba naps only if you manage to get 1 thing done then that’s 1 more thing you’ve managed tk get done, that you didn’t think you would. I’f little ones a year and you havent tryed this already maybe get a new Teddy and sleep with it for a while and put it in the cot with them so they have something that smells of you in there. Or a little sleep aid that has gentle lights and stuff a bit like ewan the sheep.

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This is a joke right? Cuddle your baby as much as you can, time flies by. Chores can wait.

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Girl this is the life lol won’t be able to accomplish any full tasks until they start kindergarten hahahahhaa good luck

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Put music after a warm bath or turn some twinkling on she will like it

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Unless my babies were sick, in pain, hungry or had a dirty diaper, I would allow them to cry a lil. They learned to self sooth and fall asleep naturally. HOWEVER
Is this baby 1 month or 1 year?
Newborns cry for a reason [hunger etc.] But my 1 year olds? LMAO would use crying to get their way.
My point is I feel one can’t spoil a newborn.

Everything changed when I had children I had to prioritize and learn new way to do things. [chores and whatnot]
Have fun and all the luck to you and your little one.

Just bring her to your bed. chores will come tomorrow .

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It doesn’t hurt for them to cry don’t give in she’s playing you it might take a week but when she realizes you not coming she will give up sounds harsh but it works

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When She goes down for a nap, You Momma does also.

Phenobarbitol works very well - just joking…

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I used to use a nursery rhyme playlist (not an upbeat one but a more relaxing one) for my girl when she wouldnt nap and for bedtime. It seemed to settle her

Asif people are actually suggesting to just ignore her :flushed:

All she wants is to be with you and that’s a hinderance because of chores :flushed:

Pick her up every time, and cuddle her for as long as she wants!

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Safe Sleep and Baby Care – Evidence Based Support

You need to put her down on the crib and take off your shirt wrap it around her so she can sense your smell and she’ll think you’re still holding her blessings with your bundle of joy♥️

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It’s a loveIy thought to just snuggle with the baby 24/7 and ignore the chores, but you have to at least be able to eat, shop, wash up and do laundry- don’t you?! t’s so hard, isn’t it? I found it difficult in the early days as my baby was distraught when I put him down and I wasn’t happy to let him cry it out either. Is there anyone you can call on to just hold the baby while you do a few bits? Also, a sling might help you do a few things. It gets better, I promise! Good luck Xx

I forgot to say, I set my baby up in his bouncy chair with ‘baby contrast videos’ playing on YouTube which distracted him long enough to grab a shower…mostly!!!

Get her used to having a those face cloths with the teddy attached,its from Baby city or clicks, its the best thing ever,my big daughter and my lil one loved it

Swaddle the baby and throw on some white noise my son is 7 months and been sleeping through the night most nights for a few months now

She is only a month old leave the chores enjoy baby both my bath took a good 7 or 8 months before they would go through the night

Has to be a joke. Hold your baby and enjoy it. The chores will still be there later. She grows too quick

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Congratulations on your baby.
This is completely normal for a one month.
All you need to focus on for the first 12 weeks is her getting enough milk and sleep and love to make her feel secure and help her grow and be healthy.
Sleep when she sleeps.
Mid morning and mid afternoon start creating a routine for when she’s about 3 months and can be put down for a nap.
Strap her to you and get on with a few chores.
If you have a partner or friends , family that can pop in and give you a break for an hour. Do 30 mins or chores and 30 mins of relaxing in the bath.
You are both just getting use to each other.
Good luck. Enjoy your baby.

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Get a baby carrier. I had a wrap around one which you can tie differently depending on if you want baby to lie down as if your holding them or sit up on your chest. Was a godsend with my little one when she was being fussy. You can still do most chores then and have both hands free!

Shes a baby ,she’s not suppose to have a schedule. Screw the chores they will b there tomorrow baby snuggles are the best :smiling_face_with_three_hearts::smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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You just going to have to let her cry herself to sleep.

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I can’t cope with all the people saying “let her cry” she’s 4 weeks old for goodness sake she’s literally brand new and petrified that she’s left her nice warm place where she can hear mummies heart beat 24/7 to this big scary world where she’s expected to just settle and be content … cuddle her its not gonna last forever no matter how many people say cuddling them is spoiling them… my 1 year old still has her nap on me… forget the chores ill regret not cuddling her more when the time comes and she’s too big!@

Get used to it😂you’ve got about a lifetime of parenthood left

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Try putting her in there while she’s awake for short periods while your near and she can see or hear you.

My son is the same way. We bought a swing bassinet so he can be lowered to a safe sleep position and stay asleep while it continues to swing him and I swaddle his bottom half because he hates his arms swaddled but sometimes you just gotta forget the chores. Chores will be there tomorrow but I understand the anxiety of the house work needs to be done but cuddle them and love it even when it’s frustrating it won’t last forever momma. Good luck and don’t let the negative comments get to you! Your doing great :heart:

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