I know a couple
that did this because it was his fantasy and then she ended up liking her better than him and she divorced him and was with the girl so he may be careful what he wishes for 
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If you’re not comfortable, DONT DO IT.
He should respect that.
Just because something works in someone else’s relationship doesn’t mean it will in someone else’s.
I’d tell him exactly how you feel about the situation & about your feelings about not feeling “good enough” & how you need better reassurance.
Good luck! 
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I could never and I mean NEVER watch my husband have sex, touch another woman and cheat on me. EVER.
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Ask him why on earth would he want to disappoint two women. Lol
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Maybe a little role playing would help. It’s cliché but have him go to the bar and meet him there dressed as someone else ( or since it Halloween pretend your someone else by wearing a costume and mask). And maybe pretend it’s a one night stand, one way to spice it up. Or try public sex🤷🏻♀️ find somewhere kind of public but park somewhere not everyone can see and have a quicky. He doesn’t need a threesome, he just wants excitement.
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Don’t do it! I have known others that did and it destroyed their marriage.
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Don’t do it. It’s not normal and will mess your mind up. Stay true to yourself !
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I’d have to leave him. Sorry but he is clearly not satisfied with just you as his wife. I have too much self respect to even contemplate the idea of letting my other half do that.
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As someone who has done this, just don’t.
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So not worth it at all. It will fuck up your marriage it always does.
I’ve been with my husband for 8 years and I wouldn’t even consider having a 3 some. It would open a door that you can’t close. If you aren’t comfortable with it say no. I’ve seen that type of thing tear a marriage apart. I’d tell him you’ve thought about it and think it isn’t a good idea.
Nope, and tell him to stop bringing it up and that it’s making you uncomfortable. And if he keeps doing it that’s sexual harassment. My heart really goes out to you 
I have had a couple threesomes but not with my husband but he has been wanting one for a couple years now. In a way I want too but in a way I don’t but he doesn’t push it much. We have been together for 10 years and he knows I used to have gfs. It’s a personal choice and not right for everyone
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And if your ver decide to do it…make sure it’s a guy first so that he knows how that feels. He wont allow a man if you have a girl first. I had a threesome with girl with my now husband but we were dating then and he never wanted to do it again. He was uncomfortable with the fact that I had an orgasm by her and uo to this day, he would sometimes say it makes him insecure. We are married 3 years, renewed vows this year cause he wanted to and been together 12 with a 5 year old son ! This is a relationship changer and if you not comfortable, do not do it. It will fuck with your psyche!
I would never in a million years. Nope nope nope.
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Tell him you’ll find the right man for a threesome. But that you’ll give him more attention and see how he feels being on that end of it.
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If thats what you want! But dont let him pressure you it can cause a serious rift in your marriage
In many experiences this doesnt work out to well for couples period. I wouldnt, but of course now you’re going to be insecure thinking he’s going to do it anyways… i really dont know what to say about this one other than Im gonna pray for your marriage, im 20 with 3 step children and I dont think this would be an option at all for me
I wouldn’t let it happen
At least he came to you first instead of stepping out on you… do what you think is best and what your comfortable with
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So alot of men have the 3 some fantasy lol. Only you can make the choice to do it. If you do you have to set rules and be completely open about what you want and what he wants. Communication is key. I’ve been with my husband for 15 years and that’s one of his fantasies we havnt done it though. But before I married my husband I was in a 2 year relationship with 2 men. The 3 of us lived together, went out together, shared a bed together. Kinda like brother husbands lol. It was alot of fun I was young though.
Agree to it choose one of his man friends
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If he insists…tell him you prefer a man and that he can choose and that you will give him more attention kkkkk
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I would never ever do that who cares if you have YEARS TOGETHER…
I WOULDN’T wanna see my hubby having intercourse with another girl
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Don’t do it …if your already feeling your self esteem is hurt by him asking just think how it will be after doing it . No way I could share my man …not my cup of tea
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Do not. Especially if youre overthinking already. Itll destroy your marriage.
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No.
It’s never just one time. It’s never enough. It’ll lead to worse.
I’d mess with him. Tell him, ok, there’s a guy I who I think you might like. See his reaction. It won’t be good, I’m almost sure of it.
Don’t. It’ll be your biggest regret and you can’t take it back.
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Honestly it going to destroy you as a woman even more then it is now I would never do it it sound fun kinky but the after math of this is gonna be bad because you’ll be insecure and theres a chance the girl stays around she’s also a human too speaking from someone who been with my husband since 15 and we’ve only had sex with each other ever it’s hard we’ve both had the thought of what else is out there but when something happened to us it destroyed us both were still recovering
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That’s a hard no. The fact that he keeps pushing it without respecting your wishes is a huge red flag. Once you invite that into your marriage you can’t undo it. And what’s next after that…?
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Fantasies are always better than reality. This is a disaster waiting to happen. How will he feel when he sees another man please you more than he does?
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Once you cross that line there is no going back. Sounds like he has degenerated needs likely thanks to over exposure to pornography. My advice is dont and try a remedy before succumbing to harmful desires
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Maybe dye your hair get a sexy outfit to help him feel something new
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If it’s not your thing it’s not your thing.Dont be forced into something like that.Remind him of your vows.It realy could cause untold problems with your marriage.Trust being one of them.
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No, because once you do it, he’ll want to keep doing it. He’ll think that since you agreed to it that ONE time, that you’ll agree to it again and it’ll turn into a vicious cycle. Ask him if he would be willing to go to couple’s counselling to help you better understanding why he would want this. If he says no then you tell him no. Tell him no, that’s not what you want, you’re not comfortable with it, end of story. If he asks or brings it up again it’s a problem and I would watch out for signs of cheating.
Don’t I have seen this kill many marriages for various reasons don’t.
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It’s a trap!! Don’t do it!! Abort mission immediately!
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If you don’t feel like you should you probably shouldn’t. You don’t seem too comfortable with the idea…
Dont do it i did it wasnt just one time deal kept pressuring me. Gave her more attention ever since i became insecure and depresses. We split due to his cheating.
LOL, my husband has been asking for a 3 some for a long time. Like before we got married and we have now been married for 11 almost 12 years. My husband always asks because his friends mentioned it a long time ago as a fantasy and they had a bet to see who got one first (no one did) and I had told him about how I had one when I was younger. Now when I did it it was because I had been drinking and wasn’t in a serious relationship with the guy and it was also with my really good friend, so I wasn’t worried about anything between the two of them because I didn’t care if I lost the guy. We where just having fun and trying new things. I keep saying no to my husband though because of the same doubts you are having plus after my experience I have no interest in women so for me it wouldn’t as fun just mostly awkward. But I do understand that he’s not asking because he’s bored with me or that there’s anything wrong with us it’s just a fantasy that most guys have, but never get.
Just remember…once you do it, it will never go away!
If you don’t feel comfortable DONT do it. But don’t NOT do it based on the opinions of other women with similar self esteem issues! If YOU don’t want to do it, then do not do it. If there is EVER a time when you ARE comfortable, maybe think about it. Go see a sex therapist! They have all kinds of legitimate tips and advice on how to spice up the bedroom. Or maybe they can HELP you be comfortable.
At the end of the day, the choice is yours. Do not give in to pressure from either side. Try the sex therapist. It could change your life.
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There’s nothing wrong with it, just sound like your relationship isn’t ready for that just yet.
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If you’re already feeling this torn up about it, then threesomes aren’t for you. This should be something that BOTH of you are naturally comfortable with if its something you’re going to do. If he has to push you into it or mention it multiple times, it isnt right.
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No way. It will destroy you and your marriage. It’s already taking a toll on you. Tell him no. Ask him his fantasy with just you two if he is looking for something new.
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Um, no. The fact that he keeps bringing it up says a lot about his character. He has no regards for your feelings and obviously has zero sense of intimacy. Honestly? If he truly deeply loved you he would never even suggest it. A fantasy is one thing but to cross that line and to keep bringing it up is really sad. If my spouse brought something like that up I probably wouldn’t be able to get over it
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It’s never just one time . Also the threesome becomes a twosome …withOUT YOU .
Brace yourself . Play into him a little ask him if HE has someone in mind , pray it hasn’t began without you already …
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If you do not want to then no, do not feel pressured into something. But to all the people saying he has degenerate needs that is not true.
It’s a hell no from me
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Tbh, it’s possible that getting married, so early in your 20s could make him feel some type of way. Y’all are barely grown and honey, he’s not mature enough, to be married, let alone, raise a child, if he’s still listening to his dumb ass friends!! You’ve matured because of them babies and that’s plain to see. Mommy duties kick in, naturally after having a baby. Also if he’s feeling pressured, with being newly married and having kids, he should’ve thought about it, reeeeeeaaaaal good first. Seek counseling and pray about it. Hope it works out for yall
Look all these people saying that he is using this as a reason to cheat is wrong. There are other ways to spice up your sex life together without doing a 3some if you are not comfortable with the idea. And if your not comfortable with it, tell him to drop it. But the whole I chose you and chose to get married thing, that’s just how guys talk. They don’t tend to go in depth with their feelings. Does not mean he don’t love you and want to be with you. So basically just sit him down and have a big conversation about everything. Use the I feel way of talking about it, listen to him when he talks back, and come to a complete understanding that your not interested in it at all. Then ask him about other fantasies. Ask him to write down a few things he may be interested in besides that, and then you look into it, read about it, find what makes you happy squirm as well. From there do some role playing or whatever other fantasies you both have besides this one.
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Based on what you’ve said here, Don’t do it and tell him you don’t want to discuss it anymore.
Two of my best friends have threesomes now and again. They’re still going stronger than ever. Just got engaged, they have a one year old, been together almost 10 years. They love it, but that’s because they have complete trust in each other. I think you’re just really overreaching .
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My husband and I have spoke about a threesome as well. We have never acted on it but we speak from time to time on it. We are both very open minded people. Only you know what is right for you. Reaching out for advice is not a bad thing but a lot of people will tell you no because it’s been beat into everyone that it is wrong and bad etc. You never know, you may enjoy it more then you think. Everyone has kinks and you have to figure out what you like and what you don’t like. I am 26 and my husband is 35, we are still figuring things out after 10 years together. Feel free to message me. I am a very open minded person and will help any way I can.
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I have had 3 some from hell and I have had great 3 somes… you just have to be careful about who is picked and lay out 101 rules and boundaries.
If you don’t want to, that’s ok! As long as your hubs is being respectful about you saying no, then I wouldn’t worry.
He also wouldn’t of been with you this long and had kids then married you if he wasnt in to you. Xo
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Don’t do it… He’ll continue without saying anything or lose interest in you. It causes a huge issue
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Sex is not a recreational sport. It is a mutual sharing of intimacy that is blessed by GOD. When you mess with the Almighty it is never good. I suggest counseling. Never do anything that makes you uncomfortable or lowers your self-esteem.
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Personally I wouldn’t agree to it… can see alot of problems from it tbh lay down everything on the table and tell him how it is. He needs to understand him being a married man and a father is completely different to a single man with no responsibilities x
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If you aren’t comfortable with it, even a little bit, dont do it.
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I wouldn’t do it. I would think that it would eventually make your marriage less strong. Jealousy will happen between you or him. You’ll stop trusting each other. You may feel more insecure about yourself or your marriage after. No good can come from it in my opinion.
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My ex left me for the woman we had a threesome with.
That being said, he was a piece of shit regardless of that fact and I’m glad he left me.
My advice? Dont do it unless youd be better off without him
DO NOT DO IT. It will destroy your marriage poly relationships and threesomes need to be wanted by both parties equally the feelings you have now won’t go away. These kind of things destroy relationships so easily if both parties aren’t on the same page. You’re not wrong for your feelings either it’s apparent it’s not something you want just tell him that and exactly how you feel and ask him not to bring it up again I’m sure he loves you and he will understand.
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No, don’t demean yourself like that. Will he cheat? Maybe but he is getting permission from you to cheat if you indulge in a 3 some.
Seems like its Pretty much every guys fantasy. If your not comfortable, dont do it
If you decide to do it, make sure you guys lay down rules and maybe a special word if you get uncomfortable. There are other Facebook groups that may have different advice for you. I’m in a certain group and by the sounds of it, it is really hard to find a 3rd person to join anyways. I’m not sure how I would feel sharing my husband. Good luck in whatever you choose.
Communication is key in any relationship.
Dont jump into it, you have to really go through be on the same page about what you would and wouldnt allow.
Me and my husband did it with a friend of ours. And that was 4 years ago and we r still together. Make sour you guys talk about your boundaries and what u expect from each other. I would not Chang it at all.
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I had an ex boyfriend that told me if I didn’t give him a threesome I didn’t really love him because I should want to fulfill his fantasies 
hell no. We definitely aren’t together anymore and I feel sorry for the stupid bitch he ended up with. My advice is take Your kids and find a real man. Give the loser visitation and find someone who respects you.
He’s “just fine” with you? Turn the tables…see if he’d feel loved, secure, appreciated, if you said you were “just fine” with him. I feel this is your husbands way of making cheating on you ok, and it’s not! Your vows were to him, not to him and another person. I feel he’s being unbelievably selfish in asking you this, 1) bc it’s satisfying his needs, not yours, 2) you are 8 months into the marriage and he’s already asking you this? He’s already unsatisfied with your marriage this early on that he needs to invite someone else into it? 3) you have a newborn for crying out loud! He’s asking you this after you’ve had his baby?
In my opinion, he has some issues he’s dealing with and you shouldn’t give in to him. He’s not showing you the love or the respect that you deserve.
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…if he has opened the door to even think about this he will do this with or without your permission. Please. I beg you. Please dont ever allow this. It destroys you.
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That’s the thing though, he did choose you, he chose to marry you! If he wasn’t prepared to have sex with one women the rest of his married life, then he shouldn’t have done it! Don’t let yourself get pressured into it, if you don’t feel comfortable with it, do not do it! Get some toys, role play, spice up your sex life without bringing in another person!
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Tbh, it seems like he loves you and respects you. he’s just being honest about his fantasies but if you aren’t comfortable that’s fine. Don’t do it unless you actually want to
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Don’t do it. Marriage is between two people ONLY!!!
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It caused so many problems for us. I would never attempt it ever again.
Dont do it! If you are not enough for him then he is needs to move on. Plus you just had a newborn. I always think of thressome as the person asking for a permission to cheat but with you in the room
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I would say I don’t share , if ya don’t want to honestly do that.
Roll play or get adventurous to spice it up.
Go with your intuition. If you feel it is not right for you, it is not. Honour yourself.
No. I’ve seen threesomes ruin plenty of relationships and marriages. They never work out.
This is your personal thing . depends on your relationship and your comfort level. If your not comfortable with it. Than don’t. If u have doubt’s now, then during the threesome or after… Your doubt’s will be worst. But if u trust him. And u trust yourself. And your comfortable with it. Go for it. I’m all for it. But it’s all about trust and respect and your personal relationship with your man. If u feel like u can’t trust him to remain faithful or have doubt’s . than don’t . BC it can open doors outside of your relationship if your not careful. But if u have a good solid relationship with your man. And feel like branching out… There is nothing wrong with it. I’ve had a threesome’. I don’t regret the experience at all. But if u don’t trust him, don’t do it. BC it can and will open doors for him if he’s the type of man to let it. So just be careful. If u do, make sure there are set rules. What your comfortable with etc . for example if u don’t think u Could handle seeing his dick in another woman. Tell him oral only. Etc etc . u need to both go into it knowing what to expect before, during, and after. Open communication is the key to bringing a third party in . . but it all boils down to whether or not your comfortable with it. And whether or not u feel safe and secure enough in your relationship to branch out . mine didn’t end in disaster. But I’ve heard of times that it has . don’t ditch it until u have took time to consider it. And none of these ppl know your personal relationship better than u do. Best of luck.
Have a threesome with a mother man , then go from there 
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I have 3 ways with my SO and love it. We have rules we strictly follow and we both have to approve who we bring in. Its not something we do all the time, but when we do we both have a blast. It can be done if BOTH of you are into it and can both respect eachother and follow the strict rules.
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Why can’t it be with another man and tell him you will put most of your attention on him …
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The fact that you’re this hesitant should say enough, regardless of why he’s asking you to do it. You haven’t expressed any interest to us in adding another person to your intimate life. This is NOT something that you do just to make another person happy. You’ve already wasted enough time thinking about this. Time to finish and move on to more important matters.
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My personal opinion would be hell no 
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I mean… Have you discussed yiur worries about it? Sex has to come with open communication.
In another words he board of you sorry
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Okay coming from being in a relationship and swinging. If you dont want to do it then dont. Simple. Just tell him. And living that life style you have to be very honest, trustworthy and secure in yourself and each other… but its certain from what your saying that’s not the case. Sorry being honest.
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Remind him of child support and living away from his kids and you know the rest of the story.
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I have heard it causes problems, almost always! If you both wanted to then sure with rules it could work, but the fact that you don’t means that is a no.
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Don’t do it. I know people who’s relationship it ruined, and every one was totally into it, it was the feelings and everything afterwards that ruined it.
Sorry, I’ ve been
married 45 yrs, I want to be the ONLY woman in his life. If not there is a serious problem. I wouldn’t do it. Tell him how you feel, how it makes you feel insecure. If he cheats anyway, that’s something you don’t have to live with.
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Who n why do woman post this crap on social media?? 
…if ur already post a question think ya no the answer there honey 
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He wasn’t ready to commit… any man or women I don’t care what anybody tells me anybody that could do sexual acts it doesn’t matter what it is with another person other then their own spouse doesn’t know what the hell marriage means and sure as hell doesn’t know what love is either. It’s justified cheating. I don’t care if the man or women say they love their S/O and it’s just to spice things up it’s a damn lie. Somebody in the relationship has a problem (sometimes both) and the other one just bites their tongue so they think the S/O will “love them” more.
Don’t do it. For the simple fact you’re questioning it.
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Sounds like he is bi. And I could never share my fiance. He would never share me either. Marriage is between 2 people…
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What happens if you bring a male in and get pregnant or you guys bring a female in and your husband gets her pregnant?
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Do YOU want that? If not, then say NO. Who posts this kind of question on social media??
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Many, many , many yrs ago my brother in law, asked & convinced his wife to do this. She left him for that other woman 
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Lots of negative comments on the situation. I’m not sure if my opinion will help but here it is. Your both young. I’m assuming that other than this request you have up to this point had a strong and healthy relationship. Sometimes partners have fantasies and that’s completely normal. Most men especially don’t outright ask for and share that they want a 3 sum. They make jokes and hint or they just go out and cheat. The fact that he told you his desire and asked your opinion tells me that he cares for you and is simply sharing his inner desires. If he loves you he won’t cheat on you because your not on the same page. Opening your relationship to exploring with another person can be good or bad, but either way is not something you should do if you do not personally want to do it. Because that will strain your relationship. You will carry that because you felt pressure or just wanted to make him happy. I would suggest more discussion. And more personal thought on the matter. But ultimately do what feels right to you. And make sure you are totally honest and open about how you feel about it. Oh and if you do decide to do it. Set ground rules before hand
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And what about STD’s?
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Don’t Do It!! EVERYTHING CHANGES FOREVER…
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I would do it I’ve been on both ends. I didn’t do it with the first one and he went out and cheated. I did it with the second one he wrote down rules and made agreements. From someone I knew but it was like another couple situation never regretted that but he didn’t like it too much when the husband asked for the same thing in return LOL
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Try it eith a sex doll first…see how that makes you 2 feel…better than straight up raw 3 some.
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