My husband has been playing call of duty mobile and talking to girls: Thoughts?

Not ok… You have 4 young kids… he shouldn’t even have time for any of that!

Yooo what you can message people on CODM?

Just go dont sit and wait for him yo tell you he won’t. letting go hurts less then holding on, your are worth more then that. if its to the point of hiding he wont change,its better to leave now then get so much hurt later I wish I had learned that a long time ago.

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Those girls don’t want shit to do with him. I am one of those girls. I play on console though. The way the servers are they are usually the same time zone. I play with the same 3 dudes every night for the past 2 years I think? We talk about everything, some of them live kinda close, some a few hours away. They are all married or in serious relationships. I pick them though BECAUSE they don’t hit on me or say fuck shit like other dudes do. I made my name daddysmasher707 cause when they tell me to go back into the kitchen I tell them imma video myself fucking their parents and sell it to their friends on my onlyfans.

And we send pics but ones a firefighter near where I work so it’s of cool shit I would know, ones in Hollywood so he sends cool shit he sees at work. We even FaceTime and blow up each others phones when we wanna play. But it sounds like your dude might not be like these dudes imma call my dudes but in no way would I ever like do shady shit.
One hates his wife but stays together for the kids and I tell him all the time either leave her or stfu and deal with it.

Nothing in COD requires Facebook or for him to be receiving and sending pictures. Bottom line is he is willingly talking to females and enjoying the attention

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Uhh, my kids’ dad and I both COD mobile and it requires none of the above especially if you have an active facebook that you can connect to already. It’s not for the game.

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I bet most of them are not even real and he’s getting catfished big time.

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Do it back see how he likes it

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Follow your intuition

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Sounds like your husband needs to grow up and get a job. If he has enough time to play kids games, he should be playing with his own kids and not other chick’s on phone. I’d break that Xbox and tell him shit stops or he’s out the damn door. Don’t come back. Like seriously grow the hell up. Pathetic

That is not apart of the game. That’s apart of the game of cheating. I say run

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do not stay in a relationship where you are not respected you do NOT have to stay with a liar and a cheater just bc you have kids together have more respect for yourself and your kids will respect you for respecting yourself and not putting up with that bullshit

Dont trust anything he is saying. My son and husband play this and also mobile, they dont have girls texting or sending pics and they havent made new facebooks either. Your husband is up to NO GOOD!!

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Talking to girls ?? Hell no ! I would leave him . He has no right to do communicate with live women

My fiancé games with other girls online but that’s it. He’s super open and honest if I feel some type of way he does what it takes to make me feel comfortable. I’m okay with it just because I’m not much a fan of gaming. But a whole new Facebook and pictures, no. I’d be highly irritated.

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I play games. I talk to guys and have even exchanged pictures on discord. I don’t hide it from my husband, I don’t put passwords on or make new Facebook pages. And if it ever bothered him I would stop. Your husband needs to follow boundaries and stuck with what makes you comfortable.

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He is cheating leave!!! It’s called a emotional affair he is entertaining any other woman he is cheating and if given the chance in person he would!! That is in no way a part of the game and he must think you are dumb (he is the dumb one bc ge could have come up with something believable yet he said this dumb crap) if he is telling you so what game requires you to make an entire new fb and send pictures to others!!! You guys can still be great coparents but he has opened the door so I would suggest you walk out of it and shut it behind you!!!

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Simple: call of duty would simply disappear period .I agree with katelyn davis.

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I play cod and that’s not part of the game hun, that’s his game! Both my husband I play with male and females and yes have a few long time game friends on fb as friends but we don’t send pictures to each other unless it’s game memes and that’s not even often what so ever

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This game is called…I’m cheating on you. End the game. Delete the app. Aka…divorce. :slight_smile:

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As a call of duty mobile player, what he’s doing is so unnecessary. It’s a game. Not a dating site. There’s no reason he needs to go out of the way to make a new Facebook for it.

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well make a fake profile and join in and you’ll see what he is doing then…

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Throw a can of corn at his ass! & leave.

*dirtyshadylyingfuckers

Girl even typing this you know the answer. Those “gamer girls” are usually harmlessly but there’s some that are only “game girls” for the male attention they’re getting. Hate to shame women because it’s up to your hubby but him changing his password should be your decision maker.

Talking on the game and talking on the phone are two different things.

I personally wouldn’t be mad about the game part. But when it goes beyond that, it’s wrong. He’s lying to you and hiding it.

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Call of booty… that shouldn’t be happening

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Hell no that’s not normal.

Pictures? What kind of pictures? Multiple photos from a dude, for a video game that benefits, not at all, from the game… makes no sense.

There is no way sending pictures is “All part of the game.” Making a whole different fb page and changing the password on his phone is obvious cheating. Tell him to stop or else. He’s being super disrespectful and treating you like you’re stupid.

He didn’t stop and that’s not part of the game…

I play COD and I speak to guys but I don’t send pictures or even chat with them other than on the ps4 and I have the ps4 mobile app so if they want me to get on they message me there and I get it on my phone.

Red flag is when he changes his phone password and hides it from you. Huge red flag. It’s hard to admit but writing it out may help you come to terms with his disrespect towards you. :frowning: I’ve been in the situation and I know how it feels. To be lied to and made out to be the fool when you question him and he only tells you it’s nothing but in all reality it’s something. I hate men like this… they aren’t even men. They’re just cowards.

Well if he changed the password he’s hiding something. Don’t let him steal your joy . You need sit down have a talk with him tell him how you feel if he don’t listen or wanna try work on anything send him packing . You deserve to be loved and honored not neglected and mistreated by a man child .

I think you already know you deserve better. You can’t make anyone love or respect you even though you deserve it. Close the door on him and move on with your life and find your happy.
Personally I would be angry because of the lies and the hiding. While I don’t think anyone likes to be broken up with at least you can respect the honesty. It sounds like you are not getting that.
I would start preparing. Put away some cash and if you have a joint bank account get your own account. Get a lawyer. Be sure to share your concerns about him exchanging pornographic photos with people online. That may result in an unsafe environment for your children.

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U deserve someone that is willing to make u feel loved and secure in ur relationship. Is he willing to work with u to correct his wrong. And the way it would make any women feel. If not then it’s time to go. Sorry to say but if he can’t give up a gamefor u and ur family that’s a red flag that can’t be ignored. If he thinks that is what the game includes then he has no business being married and playing it

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Everyone said it, but, if you had to reach out to strangers, and if you’re going through his phone- you must already be to the point of no return. If he really loves you, he’ll offer up giving up some stuff, such as his phone password, turning off the fb account, or saying he’ll play less if it hurts you. But, if he can’t do anything like that, you gotta GO. LIZZO said it best- IF HE DON’T LOVE YOU ANYMORE, WALK YOUR FINE ASS OUT THE DOOR!!!

My boyfriend is a gamer and not once did he exchange photos because “it was part of the game” he literally thinks your not smart enough to know the truth.

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My husband plays that game as well. He said that is definitely not part of the game; all communications happen in game. My hubby has a password on his phone; but I know the password, even when he does change it. Sounds pretty wrong to me.

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Grab him up by his ear ,and tell him what you want in this relationship. If he wants to play his game , get your duck in a row and move on good luck

Tell him he’s got to straighten up or you’re leaving. Yes a choice video games and girls or his family. Time to grow up

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I play call of duty. I’ve done it on my phone and on Xbox and PlayStation. I usually play with my husband. But there is no reason for me to talk to other people on there. You don’t have too. People know I’m a woman playing as my name is girly. Sometimes guys try to get me to talk but I usually don’t. The only time I’ll talk is to talk trash on someone. To need a second Facebook is definitely weird. To send pictures to other woman is a no. To say it’s because of the game is definitely a no.

Drop him like a hot cake. No one deserves that! And cmon, a grown man with a beautiful wife and babies, and he is playing call of duty? My 14 year old plays call of duty mobile…get yourself a grown man.

My finacee is a gamer and he dont do this shit. He thinks playing with kids and sharing pics is wrong. He mostly plays solo

Okay that is major creeper vibes. I’ve played COD mobile since it came out and I’ve never exchanged any personal profiles with ANYONE. I’ve made friends from all over the place and it’s cool to get on and see them online but thats a bit much even on the girls parts to actually be giving out their info. Definitely not part of the game.

Personally I’d file for divorce and get child support. You deserve to feel loved and at peace in a relationship, not constantly worried about a liar/cheater.

Change the “password” to your front door

This is a definite sign of sketchy shit. He is 100percent lying to you with the ‘it’s for the game’ bullshit. I’m sorry. I know how bad it hurts.

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Melinda Vaca don’t you play this game? Is he lying? Lol

I’m shocked at the people who want this young wife and mother to just “walk off” from her marriage. He may not have meant his wedding vows but boy I bet she did! I’m all on her side for worrying about her marriage. NO ONE needs to try to put the blame on this young lady period!

I remember when my ex husband started that… Keyword EX. He’s feeling out what he can get away with. It always goes from an inch to a mile

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We have something called a woman’s intuition, if you felt something was off enough to look In to his behaviour then you already know. Now you just have to figure out what to do about it. It’s not always as easy as just leaving. especially when kids are involved. If this is something that you can’t handle and you want to separate, just make sure you do it amicably and properly. Kids often get hurt worse with cheating than adults do when they see and experience the fall out. Good luck.

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Girl he’s cheating. Set him straight or get rid of his ass. Don’t even let him know if you’re gonna divorce him till everything is set up and ready, then just drop them in front of him if he don’t change.

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First of all, making a whole new Facebook just to talk to girls is not part of Call of Duty…….at all. He’s lying to you, and you don’t deserve that.

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Trust your instincts don’t let anybody make you feel like you’re crazy. Besides he should respect how you feel and changing his password on his phone is a little shady imo.

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Just talking is one thing there is no need to send pictures and then changing password even if nothing going on has too many red flags

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Playing call of duty too much and spending time chatting with strange women isn’t healthy for him or her, not fair to the kids either! You’re married and have a family, people you actually know, wtf would you need to chat with strangers and change your password or account if being honest and devoted to your vows? Get rid of him

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why do you have so many children not trusting your partner…

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I’m concerned with some women justifying his behavior. I play COD but not mobile and have many guy friends that are married or in relationships. We do not text message or chat outside the game. I have a few on my fb as well but we NEVER exchange pictures nor do I have their phone numbers. I would not be embarrassed if their wives heard or saw what we discussed. This man is obviously hiding something. I would ask him questions and if he attempts to gaslight you (look it up if you don’t know) or stonewall you, then I think you have your answer. An innocent person would offer up their phone and show what is being said. Shame on some of you women condoning this.

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Start playing the game to without him knowing. Make up a fake profile and add him see what his actions are under the fake profile. Good luck I hope all goes well.

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Sadly if he is starting a new Facebook page to speak to them then that would be a huge flag for me. He obviously knows how you feel and is disrespecting your feelings.
Sadly it sounds like he has created some doubt for you not to trust him and look for more evidence.
Can you communicate about how this has upset you?
Can you go to counselling?
Or do you feel that this has impacted the relationship to much?
At the end of the day any sort of decision is yours and you will have to decide if you can live with the outcome. Good luck. It isn’t a nice situation to be in

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First of all you have four babies and he has time to play games and chat around on fb? There’s the problem right there. He needs to be stepping up and helping you with the kiddos . So forget the fact that he is probably messing around with other girls .Whether it’s virtually or in person he’s cheating. But more importantly,he’s a lousy father,which is the best reason to kick him to the curb. It’s better for the kids to have a great mom ,than a mom who is mentally tormented by an immature man child who is a bad example as a dad. So since you probably aren’t in a financial position to just leave or kick him out you need to form a plan. You might have to just tell him he needs to stop all fb or it’s over. He probably won’t quit so then you need to get some legal help and work on child support right away. Do you have family and friends who can help you with child care and support? Don’t be proud ,reach out to them .

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ChrystalDusty Anardi Thank you for your answer… I just had this discussion with a friend, another friend said she has her phone, he has his and they never pick up each others phone… they have no house phone for that reason.

My marriage stated out rough my Husband did have an affair with a person from work. It started out just talking.

We have moved past it 18 years later. We pick up each other’s phones no problems…

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Out him to his friends and family when he is present by saying you don’t know what to do and asking for their advice. Like an intervention.

Why? Why is he playing games? Is he not involved with the children? How is your intimacy, not sex, do you spend time together, do you spend time just the two of you? Is he involved in caregiving? What is his role in the relationship? There is so much with this that could be going on that we aren’t aware of.

No one should go though another persons phone. I was married for 24 year and never messed with his phone or his wallet. There are line that should not be crossed. If you can’t trust them, then move on. JS

My ex boyfriend cheated on me with a girl he met on call of duty mobile told me I was crazy making it up in my head … I wasn’t I came home from work one night he left me stranded by the way I was blocked he was gone and at her house in a relationship on fb :rofl::rofl: ptsd from call of duty mobile hahahaha

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I hope you aren’t so busy being mommy you have no more time to be his wife. I also had 4 kids close together. It makes it hard to maintain that intimate relationship with your husband. If you can’t somebody else will. :frowning:

Start playing the game with guys and see how he likes it! If he can do it so can you! What’s fair for him is fair for you! Give him the same medicine he’s giving you!

I wonder if he’ll think paying child support for 4 kids in a divorce would be worth being deceitful now.

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Only thing I can say, is NOBODY likes being ignored. Nobody. Focus on yourself and your babies. Let him figure it out by himself, cause I bet he feels like a big man talking to all these girls and havin a wife/partner on the side.
Ignore him. Stop making him dinner. Don’t do his laundry. Literally focus on bettering yourself and the babies, he will either come begging back or leave. If he leaves, he’s already detached himself. I’m really sorry to say that, but you don’t deserve someone who can just easily replace you. I hope this helps! :two_hearts:

As someone that’s been in somewhat similar shoes all I can say is you deserve much much better.

I play COD mobile with my husband daily. It’s one of the many things we enjoy doing together. Of course they’re girls we both talk to and play with especially if they’re in our clan but the whole Facebook thing that’s way out of hand. He certainly can play without using a mic. He’s just using that as an outlet instead of a dating site. Facebook is not a part of COD mobile.

You already know the truth of the matter. You are only torturing yourself by searching his phone. You sound as if you will continue to tolerate this behavior. You have choices to make now. I see it this way, you give a man the freedom to do what he wants to do, then you will see what he’d rather do. Focus on yourself.

Gamer girl here :raising_hand_woman:t4:
I play with guys all the time, some of them in relationships and some of them married. We never message each other unless it’s to tell them to get on the game if they want to play. A funny meme here and there, but that’s it. Sending pictures of yourself is not part of the game. :roll_eyes:

Please don’t stay in this constant state of war within yourself, follow your gut… be aware of the kids they are sensing the atmosphere at home and this will have a impact on them on the long run. I hope it all works out for you what ever you decide.

Dont be worried… most girls on cod have 1000,s of males they “talk” too! He aint nuth,n special to her I assure you, just keep half an eye on your bank account! That,s what she probly after!:joy::joy::joy:TRUTH​:raised_hands:

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It’s crazy how so many girls r okay with the fact he has a new fb private account sending and trading pictures w other women :joy: y’all need to make better decisions . It’s a shame what you’ll stand for . After four kids? He better sit his ass down and realize what’s in front of his face.

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A lot of people have different ideas on what constitutes cheating. I read a man’s explanation that makes it so simple. " Anything you do that you don’t want your partner to know about is cheating. !" CAN’T GET ANY EASIER THAN THAT.

I added my fiancé what he thought and he said “he’s cheating”. There’s a male perspective I s’pose.

It does all seem very shady and strange. Especially the crafting a new Facebook, sending pictures and changing his phone passcode. Seems like there’s things he doesn’t want you to see

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First off, talk to him and set down an ultimatum. He stops the exchange of pictures and communication with other girls, or you’re done with him. And if he refuses, don’t back down. Show him you mean business. It sounds cruel, but if you let the situation continue it could spin out of control into something worse. Maybe once he sees that his "happy home life " is gone, he’ll realize what’s important. Or he may rather have it that way, and you shouldn’t have to deal with that. Take care of your children, they don’t need to grow up thinking stuff like what he’s doing is acceptable.

My husband and I play COD Mobile together, it’s our “date night”. You do play with all kinds of people from around the world, but he DOES NOT need another FB account, and you never chat privately with anyone, unless you want to. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but your husband is definitely trying to cheat on you or already is.

I am the gamer in the relationship and my husband knows that I am completely faithful. The gaming community you send lots and lots of pictures, memes, selfies, whatever basically. The friends you make online you spend a lot of time together.
I have had drinking nights, been completely flirty and lewd coz that’s what online is about sometimes too! Especially if you’re an adult.
Have you actually caught him cheating? Or is it that he is being happy and his own person, free from being a husband and father?
Ya need to speak to him coz there could be innocent answers for it all…

My ex partner (of 17 years) started playing Words with Friends, with random women. He’s now been married to one of them for 5.

Playing Call of Duty and other video games with women is not the problem, in fact making it about “they are women” is over the top and controlling…,
but when he made another Facebook and has been calling and Texting them is when it’s over the line and not part of the “gameplay”.
When it went from game play online to what ever he is doing now, it’s cheating and you need to tell him that you won’t stand to be disrespected.

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Checked with my big time gamer husband. He confirmed this has nothing to do with Call of Duty, it’s more like the Call of Booty!

What you put up with in the slightest only sets the tone for how your willing to be treated. It don’t matter if other people might tho it’s ok or even him. That fact is it does not make you feel good then it should stop

My husband also plays this game. What he did is not necessary. My hubby talks to other players while he’s playing. That’s it. I hear all the conversations. He is playing you. One way or another. You know your situation better than anyone. This is clearly not the only indication you have going on here.

So here’s the thing. I don’t think what he’s doing is ok but honestly that goes both ways. Just because ur married doesn’t mean u have the right to look to his phone & tell him who he should or shouldn’t talk to. Controlling him won’t make him stay & trust him. Just cuz ur married doesn’t mean u own him & he doesn’t have a right to be who he is & have privacy. Although I think making a fb and exchanging pics is inappropriate just talk to him about it. If afterwards you’re still uncomfortable just leave & co-parent ur babies together. I believe if u don’t have trust & mutual respect for each other u shouldn’t be together. My man respects my privacy & never goes through my phone or things & that goes both ways! Don’t go all spy detective looking for stuff to find. That will just drive u crazy and further away as a couple. Whatever is or isn’t happening will come to surface eventually. I wouldn’t stay or force someone to be with me if he doesn’t want to. I know that’s probably not what u wanna hear but that’s the honest truth. Good luck!:woman_shrugging::heavy_check_mark::100:

You dont need to talk to anybody to play call of duty. We play as a family (husband, me, kid) together, microphones off too and no need for chatting cause thats really not necessary in the game :woman_shrugging:t2:

The question is, if you do find out he’s been doing extra curricular activities outside of your marriage, what are you going to do about it? Always ask yourself why do you wanna know and what are you going to do once you do? If you’re staying, let him continue on doing what he’s doing in peace. No need to keep crying about the same cup of spilled milk. If you’re going to leave, always have an exit plan. Especially when babies are involved. You have an intuition. Use it :heart:

He’s clearly not being respectful to you and hiding things. I would be upset as well. Therapy or leave. Final answer.

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Be glad it just online! Its when he leaves and is gone for hour or days that u need to be worried

Trust is obviously a issue ( or a understanding has been broken) there’s something far more important than his Xbox, such as these little ones ( and you) make sure that he understands that there’s a big difference between privacy and secrets. Please do not allow this.

He changed his password and won’t tell you? Then time to get a lawyer and tell them about this

Kick him out and get a legal separation agreement for child support. His childish games need adult consequences.

He’s totally lying about needing to send pics or set up a FB account as part of CoD. My hubby used to play that religiously in his twenties.

But the changing of the password says it all. People with nothing to hide, hide nothing.

Um if you don’t trust that he’s communicating appropriately, then you shouldn’t be with him
If he’s doing something inappropriately, he definitely shouldn’t be with you because that would be unacceptable behavior.

If he changed the password you already know the answer and only you know what you’re going to tolerate!

I am not the jealous type, but there are so many red flags here! 4 young kids and he has time to play games on this phone that much that he has created a Facebook group page for? I can barely keep up with laundry and dishes for 2 kids, no way with 4 there is that much free time! He is obviously choosing the game over taking care of the kids and being a present parent!

Second of all, there is no reason to be sending pictures back and forth, if you are curious to see what your online teammates look like, look at their Facebook profile!

Changing the password, he could be mad at you for violating his privacy, but you had a reason and he wouldn’t have changed the password if there wasn’t anything to hide.

He is already taken a huge step away from the family, it will only continue if not addressed. You have to decide if you want to fight for a future or not. If you do, get started on couple’s counseling immediately.

Good luck!!!