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If you truly love them and itâs a good relationship you wonât be losing any benefits, you will be gaining your partner always being around
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Government benefits?
If you both work and have no disabilities then probably most of them. But its highly dependable on income. Also each benefit is different so it depends on which one you are claiming too and if children are involved. It would be really hard for someone to tell you indefinitely without actually knowing your circumstances.
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What type of benefits? Like personal space, time to yourself?
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What!? I canât tell what youâre actually asking here? Benefits? Like a pro and con list of living with someone? Or are you legitimately worried about losing some kind or government/agency aid? 
either way, âlosing benefitsâ when taking the next step shouldnât matter if you are actually ready to take that step. A life with someone will consist in part with sacrifice and compromise. If youâre talking about losing a bit of solitude and sharing your snacks, you gotta decide if youâre ready for that. If your talking about government or an agencies aid, then Iâd suggest waiting till you are self sufficient to provide fairly if youâre worried.
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Ability to have other partners over
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Look at what things you would gain. Money helps but some things are priceless.
Privacy. Control of the home environment. No matter how much you love someone, living together is a compromise.
Are you referring to government benefits? Or the benefit of freedom and privacy?
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Ummmm⌠Some of yâall need to quit hating on this lady. Maybe sheâs worried about her benefits because they canât afford to lose them right now.
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The ability to make whatever you want for dinner. Because he may not like everything you do.
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Your piece and quiet and your bed to yourself.
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Freedom, the remote, favorite snacks, peace,âŚ
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If referring to government, depends on income.
Space, not having to pick up after someone, freedom
To do as you please when you please
Not having the double bed to yourself x
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your freedom and sanity
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Kiss your sanity goodbye that your deffo going to lose 
A whole pizza that you donât have to share.
Youâll probably loose all the other friends with benefits.
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Youâll the lose the ability to do whatever in the hell you want.
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Well, you just outed yourself for possible fraud.
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The only thing I miss is just buying like one iced coffee, or one breakfast sandwich 
you gotta buy two of everything and it gets expensive. I feel like thatâs it⌠I love him laying next to me every night⌠you still get personal space⌠Iâll be in the bedroom while heâs in the living room playing the game⌠takes a bit of an adjustment if say youâre a neat freak & heâs messy or vise versa⌠just always communicate and compromise and donât just throw attitude around when something bothers you.
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You will loose your bathroom all to yourself food will go missing you will need to share your blankets and your remote controls and tv are no longer yours! This is just the beginning thereâs a middle and ending too!!
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Your probably going to have to clean up after them constantly cause men literally donât clean 
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I didnât lose any benefits i donât think⌠I have everything I had before just have people with me now lol
So when you move in with someone they expect more from you and sometimes their expectations are more than you can handle bc if you have kids they canât always come 1st and if your like me then there is just days where you wanna just cuddle up in bed and watch tv all day but you canât anymore bc they expect you to get up and talk and cook and clean. I love my husband and I do get up everyday even when I dont want to bc I love him bc living alone has so many perks or just living with your kids. I like controlling my surrounding and my meals and when someone else lives.with you then you compromise on everything bc you have to think about them too which isnt bad just Iâm stubborn and hard headed lol
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You will lose the âI miss themâ feeling, space and probably your mind if youâre not used to sharing your space with folks. I personally canât live with a s/o, Iâm moody and need hours a day to myself đ¤ˇ
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You will learn how to share and lock yourself in the bedroom and cook for 2 and always have someone to share your thoughts with
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None if You have the right partner.
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Not a good idea for many reasons⌠He needs his own place. I will never let another man move in with me ever again! That was the biggest mistake ive ever made!!!
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Depends how much they earn, it turns into a joint claim so goes buy what the household income is ! If he is willing to pay his way you shouldnât have a problem , you might lose everything so wonât have your own money , think about it loads before you make the move and make sure youâre both on the same page , the last thing you want is him resenting you for paying for everything ! But basically thatâs probably what heâs gonna be signing up to , you wonât get as much as you do now x
The sole use of the remote 
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Nothing if the move is mutually beneficial.
There are benefit calculators online so you can look at this before you make that decision
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Benefits of being able to fart and not get a reaction from someone
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The will to live 
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All⌠simply because you called them your partnerâŚ
To have a girly bedroom.
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You will lose control of the TV remoteâ:grin:
Thought it was joke page haha 
Been with my Husband for 28 years nearly ⌠Right ballache Iâm only 44 
You will lose your freedom of farting. 
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Focus on benefits you gain.
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Privacy & sanity, gone
If youâre talking about government benefits it all depends of income and dependents. Do you have children? A job? Does he? There are calculators to determine benefit amounts based on yearly income and household size online, thereâs usually a gap between being able to provide and the government paying out, so good luck! Iâm sorry you have to take this into consideration
Without some kind of agreement 50% of everything you own depending on the common law regulations where you live
If youâre concerned about being restricted from benefits or freedom because of a roommate, then why are you considering having one in the first place??? Bringing someone into your private life should be complimentary. Not restricting.
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A partner is supposed to ADD to your life, happiness. If youâre already thinking like this now, youâre already off to a bad start.đ¤ˇ
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Depends on what benefits youâre talk about.
Well, you wonât be able to sleep like a starfish all spread out at night!
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Storage space, movie choices, privacy, food choices, time
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Peace of mind , having to share bathroom Internet Wi-Fi just a hassle.
Everything⌠donât do it unless you plan on this being a forever thing âŚ
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Freedom, dignity, self respect, happinessâŚ
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Nice one Julie xxxx 
clean house, remote, space, time!!! Credit
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You donât deserve a partner⌠partner
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Privacy, having to share decisions. More house work.
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Arenât they going to pay their way??
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he gets benefits more than you, just donât do that
The choice of what you make for meals, whether you return home every night and at what time, the freedom of nobody elseâs opinion about what youâre going to do in all things. Or are you talking about government benefits? You are required to report their income along with all incomes in the household when applying for assistance. Any changes in household income is required to be updated within 10 days of the change. If you are caught lying about household income you will be subject to returning what youâve received.
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Makes me sad reading these comments, one load of selfish folks!
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It depends on the state that you live in California after 7 years itâs 50/50. Google it and see what it is for your state
If your asking this question then your ass ainât ready to be moving in with anybody
Everything discussed here should be discussed with the partner
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If youâre talking about welfare/ food stamps if depends on his income
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Affection, He/She is going to hate you!
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Peace and spontaneous adventures!
Sanity,freedom ,etcâŚlol
Who cares if you love this person
Privacy⌠complete freedom
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Why not let Jesus move into your heart? He is there for those who answer. He provides guidance and love. That is all you really need.
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The benefit of being a strong and independent women who doesnât have to answer to anybody but herself and God. Why canât people live sepi when theyâre single.
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My husband passed 6 years ago. I will NEVER remarry or have anyone move in. I was married for 45 years, he was the love of my life! Started dating in HS! It does get lonely sometimes, but I go out and work in my garden or meet with friends, and yes, i still love a good margarita! I treasure my alone time!
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People have a need to be with other people. Iâve been widowed now for 19 years. I was thinking just the other day how nice it would be to have a wife again. After a while, I just went ahead and did the dishes and laundry myself, so Iâm back to not really needing a wife.
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I prefer to live alone. I can eat when I want, leave my boots in the middle of the floor, go and come as I wish, and no one is sprawled in front of a game w a case of beer asking when dinner will be ready. I no longer have the energy to compromise or change my ways.
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Privacy, being taken for granted, I lived with boyfriends before, and I love living on my own, and letting him visit when I want too
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No one can tell YOU that. We can only speak of our experiences. That answer, my dear, is one that only you alone can answer. I wish you the best.
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U could lose an eternal life in Heaven when Jesus Returns and then the Judgement. Heaven and Hell are real and both are eternal. We will be praying for you. Read the Bible(the teachings of Jesus) and then Jesus will reveal to u what is right and wrong. God Bless
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I will NEVER move in with anybody or have anybody move in with me and I will never remarry. If I do I lose his pension that I use to live on
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I moved in with someone six years ago. The thing I miss the most is alone time. And sometimes when he is outside doing yard work, I feel guilty for sitting and binge watching something. Other than that, I enjoy it.
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Depends on what type of benefits your talking about, if your drawing your dead husbands SS as long as your not marrying you wonât lose anything!
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There seems to be a lot of single people on here making comments about how terrible it is to live with someone. Makes you wonder why they are single 
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If youre disabled and marry you will lose all disability benefits, even if you cant work due to the disability. If you get married again after the death of a spouse, you lose all of their social security money being paid back to you for their death. If you have children and are on any low-income plans (such as school lunch being free or reduced, help with school supplies or necessities you cant afford) you will have to re-submit the household finances, and likely lose that help. If you have state help with housing youll have to re-submit the house finances to them, and likely lose that help. If you have state medicare, the same thing again.
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It shouldnât be about benefits! This decision should be based on love and commitment.
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If your not combining everything then you have your household and he has his as far as benefits. Just because someone lives with you doesnât mean they are part of your household. For instance a roommate. He wouldnât be any different. Now if your going to combine food, money etc then yes.
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I can only suggest you make a contract if you are not going to marry. Will you support them or the opposite. Do you each work? Are there kids involved? So many lonely people do this to solve the loneliness or feel wanted. Please think through consequenses before you do this.
I married my soul
Mate and if I moved in with someone if God forbid he passed. Iâd lose us, nothing would be worth that. But you were to Vega in your question. Thinking more to it then what appears
So glad we lived together for 4.5 years before we got married. Learned how to make compromises very quickly, who will do what, how does one handle stress, how does one react in an emergency, building trust, working budget and bills together. It was like a marriage boot camp. Been together 35 years. The biggest secret is that we learned to laugh at ourselves and dream out loud together. Sorry, I couldnât think of any benefits you would lose.
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Why are people so negative about every thing? I donât know how old you are but hereâs a bit of my story. Iâm 78.been a widow for almost 6 years, got a friend request from a friend I knew 25 years ago ( in Aug.of 2019). I was surprised to hear from himâŚhe had serious health issues and I thought he had passed away. He ask me about a serious thing going on with someone we both knew. In the mean time I knew he was living with someone but never heard they got married 18 years ago. Moving onâŚhe told me she had left the state to visit relativesâŚand 2 days later she told him she wasnât coming back. The relative was one of her ex husbandâs. My friend ended up in the hospital. and I didnât know what happened to him. All of our communication was through my cell phone and his laptopâŚhe was deaf. I finally found him through his friendâs list. Kept in contact daily,several times a day, night and day for months(he was with a son a couple hours away)âŚin Oct.'20 he came back to this areaâŚwe tried to find him a place to live that he could afford and he was staying with one of his bachelor friend. I finally ask him to move in with meâŚwe are both ChristiansâŚshe was applying for a divorce was back in her home. He moved inâŚin Nov. and was here til Feb. 12 when he went to the hospital. He died 4-10-21. We had about 3 and a half months together and we were both happier than we had been on a long time (me for many yearsâŚI had been married over 54 years).So donât judge othersâŚyou donât even know our whole story but in our case at 78 and 76âŚwe fell in love and had some happiness and yes sadness but Iâm glad we had that short time together.
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NOThing,this is what I gained a best friend,HE cooks,cleans,laurdry,you name in,we even dicuss the bible and worship together,Istill have my freedom and so much more,would not trade him for nothing.
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Just have ground rules. Make sure you make it known youâre not a maid, that way you donât get roped into that role
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Is this life partner? Partner of the week? Month? I found there is nothing to be gained other than more laundry, filthy bathroom and hi snoring on couch cause they work hard (6 hours vs my 12) and are tired. Nope never again.
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Are you talking about benifits as in government help (food stamps, ssi, welfare, or disability payments) or benifits as in non money ( the freedom of being alone and doing what you want)
Without a clear statement of what you think you might be losing NO ONE on here can possibly give you an answer.
Also, if you mean money benifits, rules could be different for each state. Better to look up info on your state benifits websites for accurate answers.
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You will lose respect for yourself. Get married or stay single in your home alone 
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Statistics show that marriages more often fail when living together first.
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What you lose doesnât compare to what you gainâ¤ď¸
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Depends on your state and the benefits we are talking about. Each organization that you are receiving benefits from have an explanation for changes in your life. Read about them.
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Being able to do whatever you want in your home. 
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