How to deal with pettiness?

I'm in the middle of a divorce and I moved in with my parents and I work from home. So I've only been at my parents house for a few days and I have been miserable.. My sister by herself is really nice and considerate and I enjoy being around. My sisters friend also lives with us and she anticipates on moving out some time after December. Anyways.. Like the past few days I feel like I'm constantly attacked and gained up on. Like it's petty stuff really. I was about to explain the difference between a pie pumpkin and a regular pumpkin and I was interrupted and was told I was wrong and said why. Even though I never gave the explanation. Then we were talking about shampoo and I was told it was horrible for your hair and should by the expensive stuff... Then they brought my dog into the conversation (she has not moved in because of her anxiety and I'm getting my room ready for her) and they said ugh I don't know how we can handle 3 dogs when we are perfectly handle 2 (which they don't they just leave them constantly alone). I'm not trying to sound petty. I've been very emotional because it has been a horrible year this year... I was diagnosed with PCOS (no babies anywhere near my future), the divorce, and I don't want to deal with the pettiness... Please be nice it hasn't been the easiest time for me and I already feel like crap...
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Sounds like you’re going through a lot. Maybe see if you can get into counseling to help you through this time and heal. I’m sorry I don’t have anything in regards to the pettiness, but counseling does wonders when starting over!

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I would maybe try to limit conversation with them. If they are going to act like that just don’t engage in conversation. Or when they talk to you just give an answer that doesn’t bring the conversation further. And kind of just ignore what they say. Unless you think telling them to quit it and stop acting that way will work.

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If they live in your parents house specially the friend I would encourage your parents to put a stop to all that.

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I would ignore them completely if they try to talk to you together. Tell your sister that you will not talk to her and when her friend is around because you won’t take her disrespect. You have enough to worry about then the pettiness of her friend. Hang in there and focus on saving money for your own place. Good luck momma

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Well I’m sorry to hear about everything just keep pushing but on another note I have pcos as well and 2 kids after they told me I couldn’t have kids so won’t give up hope

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A combination of birth control and metformin helped me conceive with pretty severe PCOS so dont just give up

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Stand up for yourself or dont talk to them. Its not a requirement to join in any oetty drama,family or not.

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You need to have a conversation with just your sister because it sounds like the friend is the one that is initiating it with the help of your sis. Talk to her and if the behavior doesn’t stop ignore her and her friend completely. It’s less petty than what they are doing. Just make sure you talk to her first.

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They only thing you can do is change YOUR approach and response. Most people like this font change. Of course try to talk to them. But put yourself in control of your happiness. Change your approach and or response . Drop petty issues , or just be overly nice see if they get the hint . OR “ong your right!” To everything

I’m sorry for everything you’re going through. Have you tried talking to them? If you’re afraid of being interrupted maybe write a letter? If I were doing something that upset my sisters, I’d absolutely want them to come to me.

Another side of the coin apart from above responses is to look at maybe with being under a bit of stress yourself ur maybe feeling a bit on edge and taking things personally? It’s constructive so please take this as not a dig. I went through some sgit a while back and found myself triggering to all sorts of things that usually wouldn’t have bothered me. X

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Get therapy ,talk to your parents and or maybe stay elsewhere

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Ear plugs and don’t speak to those people until you can move out

I would just try not being around when they are together. Maybe talk to your Mom alone and see what she thinks of the situation, you might be pleasantly surprised…

Its hard dealing with bullying type behavior. Set goals for yourself and try to not engage with them. Just focus on you and what you need to do, one day at a time. Also let your parents know that they should encourage the friend to move out, that its difficult with the three of you. Btw, theres good treatment for PCOS, I had it also and its fairly common.

Tell them to kiss your ass.

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Good luck and sorry for everything thats been happening but all this sounds like children petty fights.

Just stick to your plan . Dont engage, keep it simple. What does it really matter if they like how you wash your hair or what they know abt pie ect … . Give your energy to the things that matter, yourself and your gracious parents for having a home to go to . Just say good to know when they impart thier wisdom on you and smile .