As long as we have a healthy bedroom life then I honestly do not care. Doesn’t bother me at all.
Well I watch it and he’s not really into the sexualness. I would be OK with it No harm No foul!!!
Ah hell. Watch it with him and commentate. Good entertainment right there cuz I know I can do better than that fake chic on the screen.
If you haven’t had a conversation about it explaining that you’re OK with it then it’s totally NOT OK but if you were to ever have a conversation about it and if you were to feel like it was OK then that’s different but I am totally understanding of your situation. Been there, done that! Try to have a conversation about it and try how you may to not blow up because it only gets both parties very frustrated and mad.
Ask him why he likes watching it? What does it do for him? I know my husband before has told me he thinks of me when he has watched porn but it still bothered me because it wasn’t me. I feel like unless you are both on board with either or both of you
watching porn that it is cheating.
A persons naked body is special and should be protected. Men are animals, they seem to want sex like every other day & supposedly they think about it like 300 times a day. IDK . It’s a very personal thing in every marriage/relationship to decide what either or both spouses/people are comfortable with.
My man and I were driving back from a weekend trip and I started watching porn on my cell phone and he didn’t felt comfortable and he felt that he was not enough. (He is a fit person and loves going to the gym, he used to compete as a model for NPC.) After he told me how he felt, I apologized and reassured him. I don’t think I’d feel comfortable with him watching porn either. I see it as him getting pleased watching other women getting fucked… everyone is different. Sending you hugs!
Totally okay, shit i be watching it too lol
more sleep for me
Totally fine I watch it too
Totally fine with it … married 35 to HS sweetheart
Idc. I watch it too. We can watch it together even. As long as he isnt talking or messing with anybody else i really couldnt care less.
I used to feel the same way. Not sure what happened, but now I don’t have an issue with it cause the videos are just videos. He comes home to me, we do our thing. Now after watching videos, we try different positions. Some we love, some we hate. 🤷 And a lot of times, we’ll watch it together. But I will say, it’s ok to feel the way you do.
I’m okay with it. Hell I watch it too with him cause I like new ideas. It keeps it interesting. We also find new tattoos for me to get haha
I’m 100% okay with it.
I’m comfortable with it, but if I was not and it was expressed then ignored, I would be upset.
I really don’t think it would be that you are not enough. Some people can easily get addicted to things like that. Therapy?
When i think about it i dont care but when i look at it from a Christian point of view i think its wrong and trouble will follow lust always
I never understood how someone could think this is a form of cheating. I am 100% ok with it, I have even suggested videos to my SO.
Hell, we watch them together and then have our own shot we watch. It’s just porn. No big deal
If someone does something they know you’re not comfortable with, no matter what it is and you’ve expressed that to them and they continue to do it, it’s a betrayal. People come in all different types, with different ideas as to what cheating looks like and what cheating is. It varies between couples and no one else has the right to tell another person what cheating looks like in someone else’s relationship.
Yup I’m fine I watch them too why not
It depends how open minded the women are,Its ok to watch together, mostly in middle age that physical touch is getting rare and boring. Porn boost our desires to our partner sometimes helps us to explore sexual activities and become more intimate and get excitement, just my opinion✌️
Nope. It’s cheating and it damages relationships and his perception of his wife. It also is associated with depression, cheating, and divorce.
lol I feel like we should all be allowed fantasies and private masturbation time, not cheating in my eyes
Doesn’t bother me one bit
I don’t mind my man watching porn cause I watch porn myself
We watch it together and on our own i dont think its a big deal
You’re allowed to feel your feelings When we have a healthy bedroom life, it doesn’t bother me. When we’re not regularly having sex but he’s watching porn often, then it bothers me a lot because my needs should be prioritized first, and fake girls on a screen shouldn’t get more of his time than I do.
Don’t let some of these comments get to you! Your feelings are valid.
I hate that my husband has watched it. Only reason is bc the kind he watches makes me more insecure about myself. Ive talked with him about it. & he stopped but ive caught him other times. I have sent him videos pics all that he said would keep him from watching it & so far it has. We had a good sex life till i got pregnant again. Then he knew itd be a here & there thing.
I use to be addicted to porn it can definitely become a problem if not in moderation. Underlying reasons.
It doesn’t matter if we’re okay with it. You are not.
He should respect that you asked him not to.
Perhaps there’s a separate problem?
I know from experience, it’s not you.
I don’t mind that mine watches it lol shit I watch it lmao. just not with him. That’s private time.
If you’re not comfortable that’s all that matters, not who else is because at the end of the day it’s not gonna change your feelings on it.
I personally don’t care at all. He could watch it 100 times a day for all i care. He definitely doesn’t but that’s just me saying I literally do not care. I watch it also & he doesn’t care that I do, it turns him on a little bit so it makes no difference. I also send him pics & videos which he’s never disappointed in & absolutely loves far more than porn BUT he will still watch it especially if I haven’t sent him any new ones then he gets tired of watching the same videos. Just like he won’t watch the same porn vids twice so he finds new ones. He will watch mine more than once but after so many times the excitement kinda wears off cause you literally could watch with your eyes closed once you’ve seen it so many times lol.
Doesn’t bother me…I watch it too
So much porn is sexual slavery. Don’t know which aren’t . More than sexual morality how about slavery morality.
nope but my husband dont like porn
I don’t care. Doesn’t bother me if he watches it.
Yea I don’t care if he watches them
I used to find it on my husbands phone years ago. But once i explained to him my feelings on it and how it affected my self esteem (and if hes horny just wake my ass up and we can do our own kinky stuff) or watch it with me and he actually listened. I havent found any since. Maybe if you just explain your side how it makes YOU feel
Diffintly not ok and he should respect your wishes!
Fantasies aren’t cheating, idc
I’m personally fine with it but that is something we discussed. As long as both of our needs are being met before the other turns to porn I don’t mind.
It’s porn lol I do it alll the time…not a big deal.
As long as he doesn’t know them personally it’s 100% okay with me. Open your mind with what he likes in order to help progress your intimacy as well
I’m ok with it. Don’t really want to hear about it or join or whatever. And as long as its not affecting our sex life, I’m cool.
Actually I’m against it. I use to be ok with it but then I started feeling like I wasn’t good enough, it honestly made me feel inadequate, insecure & actually depressed me. I felt like he cheated.
Then when I voiced it, he said he would stop.
Then… weeks later… he said the only reason he wasn’t having sex with me was because his back hurt. I said it was fine.
I went in my phone and for whatever reason our phones are synced. I don’t get it, no one can figure it out. And there’s a SHIT TON of college girl porn. So I asked how his hand was feeling… Then the fight started. So then I asked him if he was still planning on looking at it when our daughter was a college student.
To me… its disgusting. How many were against their will?
Your feelings on it are valid. I don’t blame you.
Why are y’all laughing at her??? Aren’t we supposed to build women up??? I’d you don’t like it tell him. You do t have to tolerate it. Period. Tell him.
Doesn’t bother me at all
It doesn’t bother me, as long as he doesn’t know them. He should respect you though!
I think security mstters. I watched during my last relationship and was 100% faithful where as he cheated constantly so it made me uncomfortable it made me feel not enough in any form
You are enough. I watch porn while in a relationship because I have a high sex drive. Not that my man isn’t enough for me… we all have needs and sometimes they need to be met when our person is at work
This is going to depend on each individual’s opinion. No one can tell you how you should or shouldn’t feel. You’re allowed to be uncomfortable about it while other people wouldn’t be bothered by it. What’s important is you communicate your feelings about it with him and he needs to respect that.
I’ll never be okay with it. I’ve never caught anything on my husband’s electronics and he swears he doesn’t watch it. I believe him. We’re both Christians. I know everyone’s going to say “Every man does it.” But I don’t believe that.
We’re both the type to become uncomfortable during heated scenes in a movie or show and make excuses as to why we need to leave the room during that time. Or we turn our heads or look at each other. Whenever we watch a movie together, my husband pulls it up on an app in his phone and searches what’s in it before we press play. If it’s mild, like a Nicholas Sparks scene, we watch the movie. If it’s like 50 shades of grey, it’s a hard pass.
I know some people may argue that it’s a self esteem issue or relates to a persons insecurities. I do not feel this way. I feel sex is sacred and not to be shared with just anyone or to an audience.
If you’re not comfortable with it, your opinion and feelings are valid. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for not being okay with it or pressuring you into allowing it to happen. Not all men are the same. Just have a good talk with him- lay it all out for him. Communicate how it makes you feel when he does it. Ask him why he does it and tell him you’re genuinely curious so you can come up with a solution or a compromise.
Don’t listen to anyone on here that says you need to grow up, accept it, get over it, deal with it.
It’s perfectly okay to feel the way you do.
Looking for a good man in usa where are all the hot men ?
As long as they are coming home to you at the end of the day …
It’s ok with me.
It’s not that you aren’t enough. Masturbating is normal.
I see no issue I agree I don’t want him subscribing on some local hoe but
Doesn’t bother me. Hell sometimes we watch together
Men will forever watch porn its just something they do.
It hurt me cuz it was hidden….husband stopped and vowed never to make
Me cry or feel so low again. I believe him. He hadn’t meant to break him boundaries but….it hurt bad.
I’m 1000 percent ok with it. I’m not his keeper and he’s able to do watch whatever hw wants. Hey sometime we even watch it together. I wouldn’t ever think it’s a form of cheating but I guess if you do then you both need to sit down and talk and come to an agreement but it’s not fair if that agreement only goes your way so remember that.
im ok with that as long as im with him while watching it…
I’m in the same boat I don’t like it either and feel the same way
It’s a sickness…
Yep dont care at all. My husband chases me around like a teenager so that might be why it doesn’t bother me lol
I’ve tried to watch and didn’t understand the hype. I get annoyed by it and I do make negative comments about him watching it because I hate it. But if he’s gonna do it, whatever. I’m still living my best life and our sex life is pretty healthy. Pick your battles.
Listen honey. Think of it this way, it’s better that he watches porn than to actually go and physically cheat with another human being. We are humans, we have fantasies and sexual desires. Be happy that you didn’t catch him having physical contact with another woman.
In my relationship it is no issue. We watch it together, apart, share videos we like. We shop for it together. We have a very active sex life. But I have never seen anything wrong with porn in the 1st place. It’s all about comfort levels. What are you comfortable with
Maybe offer to watch it with him. I have watched porn with my husband and we both enjoyed it.
I’ll watch porn with my man. it’s not a problem.
Men should be answering this question lol
Not cheating, and I don’t care. Because I’m secure with myself and in my marriage.
All that moaning is fake btw lol
If he said he won’t do it again and he still do it. Disrespectful as fuck. You’ve stated your feeling and he agreed to stop.
It’s a slippery slope and can quickly become an addiction. If he’s hiding it, finding time to look at it, and even starts to look at it without even needing to finish himself it’s time to find an addiction counselor.
I do. Girl, Sit and watch it with him. It will help your self life
I have zero issues with it. However I myself watch porn lol. If you have a problem with him watching porn that speaks more about your insecurities than his fidelity. You might want to seek counseling? And I’m not saying that to be hateful or snarky, I mean it in all seriousness and sincerity. My other half will often find a little inspiration when watching and later surprise me with a new “move ”
Watch it with him…maybe get some new ideas to spice things up or try something new. Rather than shame him maybe explore together. If you tried communicating to him it bothers you… maybe try couples therapy. Sometimes having a third party perspective from a counselour helps people understand alot more.
We both watch it, alone and together, It’s fantacy.
It’s about what you can’t really have.
It’s never effected our intamacy and we are still going strong 23 years together and counting.
I 100% will NOT TOLERATE it!! I also feel it is a form of cheating and I would definitely not let it slide.
Watch it with him like seriously my husband and I both do
My husband is respectful enough to not just leave it out in the open for me to find. It’s the subs and chat thats wrong to me-they don’t need to be talking to those girls.
I personally wouldn’t care if he’s watching porn it may not have anything to do with the relationship it might just be something he enjoys. Most men enjoy it whether they’re getting laid or not lol a lot of girls like watching porn too. If you really don’t like it though and you’re feeling insecure about it definitely chat with him about it… Sounds like something to see a professional about just so you can better explain to him how it’s making you feel.
I watch them with him
It doesn’t matter if other people are ok with it or not. You aren’t end of story
I fully do not give a crap and I personally watch porn myself. We watch it together
I personally don’t see any reason to be upset, I mean we all have celebrity crushes, people we see that are attractive etc… if it bothers the spouse maybe discuss it to get to the underlying issue. Watching something (IMO) isn’t cheating or anything close, but if your spouse is bothered it needs to be addressed before anything else
Hell, my husband is a womanizer so at this point, I say go for it
I could care less about porn. It’s only if he’s paying for onlyfans that makes me uncomfortable. Especially if it’s someone he knows. Hell to the no.
We watch porn together, and separately. Grow up
Who cares lol it’s videos I’m don’t get how anyone can get mad over something like this
You will get both answers here. Some don’t mind, others do. It is strictly case by case.
If you haven’t had a good sit down, you really should. If you have had the conversation, told him how it makes you feel and he continues to do it it, he doesn’t care about your feelings or respect your boundaries.
Sit with him again and tell him, in very simple terms how it makes you feel and why it makes you feel this way.
A friend of mine said this:
Ask him if he poked you with a hot needle and you said it hurts, is he going to continue doing it because he doesn’t feel the pain?
We watch it together
Trust me, it has nothing to do with you not being enough. If you feel uncomfortable with it and see it as cheating and get jealous about it then that is pointing at your own insecurities. I promise you watching porn isn’t that serious/bad. But at the same time, your feelings are valid and deserve to be heard by him.
Yep, 100% fine with it just as he is with me watching it. If you can’t trust your spouse then you’ve got a lot more problems than porn.
we watch together ok with it watch it with him let him do his thing
big deal its porn its not like he is banging some hoe
Honestly, I watch porn myself whenever I’m home and feeling in the mood. I don’t care if he does. We even watch together. But my answer doesn’t matter if YOURE not okay with it.
I don’t personally care what he watches as long as I’m the only one he’s touching.
It would depend on the porn. I’m not okay with him watching if he has the capabilities to communicate with whomever is putting a show on.
I don’t mind as long as he’s not choosing it over me.