Am I the problem like my boyfriend says, or I am manipulated and treated like crap by a narcissist

Back story. Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 7 year. We have a toddler together and another on the way. And he is constantly complaining that I nag on him and he can’t stand me, and has left probably 10 times over the years but I always let him come back. I try and talk things out with him and he always tells me to get away and I always do, but I feel hurt and betrayed he won’t talk to me and actually try and fix things. He yells and isn’t physically aggressive but is mentally and emotionally draining. I feel like he is sucking the life out of me and my kids. I work, and am the only caring for our child, and the house and our daily lives, and he DOES NOTHING. And I am always the bad guy. I just feel like I am at a loss. Do I keep trying? Am I the problem? Am I nagging him to much to help me? It doesn’t help that my parents are always having to save the day when he vanishes, and his parents think im the devil. What do I do?

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Wow, hun. That sounds absoloutly exhausting!
Going by what you’ve said, you are with an absolute lost cause who needs to check himself.
No doubt his mum doesn’t like you because he’s talking about you to her, which is a red flag itself if he’s saying nasty things about you to her. I’m sorry if you feel like you love him, or have feelings for him? But, that really doesnt sound like a relationship worth saving when you’ve already tried numerous times.

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